im 16 and i have a boy friend thats 20, but now im starting to have feelings about another guy an he's 17. im soooo confused .......... i have luv for both of them ...........the 20 year old iz very sweet and caring <<< with a good job. the 17 works with me at my job . he is funny, very easy to get along with.........im stuck in the middle .....i need help. who do u think i should b with???? or just give me the heads up . thanks
2006-09-08 17:37:07 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this may sound corny to you but i think you should follow your heart
2006-09-08 17:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by maddie r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are only 16 I have to say the 17. A 20 yr old going out with a 16 yr. is so wrong! He maybe sweet but he is an adult going with a kid. I hope your parents know and disapprove.
2006-09-09 00:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think going with the 17 year old will be better in the long run. Someone who is 20 years old is in a whole different world than someone who is 16. (Just think about the differance between being 16 and being 12 - - -differant world right?). Have fun with someone your age and enjoy being a teenager instead of running headlong into an adult relationship with someone who is already partly established in the world.
2006-09-09 00:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should stay with the one your with, if he treats you good you should stay! ill tell you Ive been there my self! and now that Ive grown up i realized how dumb i waz! stay where you are if that don't work out then break up and go do your thing! if you love the 20 year old stay! switching like that only confuses some one i know it just happened to me 2 years ago i left the one I'm with now for an ex girl friend and well she ended up breaking up with me and now I'm married to the girl i left i realized i had made a mistake take my advice stay you just mite regret it if you let the 20 year old go! good luck! and i hope you make the right decision
2006-09-09 01:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by getagrip_25301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well i'm the same age and i'm going out with a 20yr old. But he has been my friend for the longest time. All I can say is, get to know each of the guys really well. Which one CAN'T u live without. One of those guys is bound to be the one for you. Good luck and don't let these negative comments bring you down. :o)
2006-09-09 00:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay with the 20 year old, you have love that works.
If you lean towards the 17 year old, this means you will have to experiment to see what works and what doesn't with this person?
But otherwise, follow your heart. Sounds corny, but it'll usually tell you the right answer.
2006-09-09 00:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by ineedanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is be with the one who you really love or like the most. you can't have both of them, Don't play head games with them. Men don't like that. No disrespect intended toward you, just friendly advice. I know that this information is correct, because it happened to me. but I chose a man 30 years older than me. He's a real winner and a keeper and I love him dearly. We've been re-married almost 4 years.
2006-09-09 00:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by midnightwolf99_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean its all on u but personally the 20 year old may be too experienced for u and may want things u may not be ready for and the 17 year old may be more intuned with u but like i said its all on you to decide just think from ur heart u will figure it out
2006-09-09 00:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting involved with a 20 year old can get him in big trouble - even if you dont sleep with him. Having feelings for 2 guys is also extremely self-centered. You don't care about them, hell you don't even know what it means to have feelings for someone. Once you realize it isn't all about you you'll know what to do with yourself.
2006-09-09 00:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lobster Dinosaur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young and they also too young, where are they working?, Do your country has Child labour act?. For your love, you choise the 20, because he is caring you, fun is a fun thats all, it could not help all times.
2006-09-09 00:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by Devaraj A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR NOT IN LOVE YOU NEED TO LET TIME PASS GET TO KNOW THEM BETTER WITHOUT SEX IF THAT'S THE CASE OR NOT THE 20 YEAR OLD IS MOST LIKELY WANTING ONE THING BELIEVE OR NOT THE SEVENTEEN YEAR OLD MAYBE THE SAME THING ;YOUR FEELINGS FOR THEM WILL CHANGE WHEN THE NEXT CRUSH COMES ALONG
2006-09-09 00:44:14 · answer #11 · answered by Irene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋