For all step mothers...?

Question

Im a step mother.. and i am wondering if anyone else out there, has a husband with an X wife from hell.. and if so how bad is it for u.. I try very hard to get along with my x husbands wife , but she's just one of those people that no matter how hard u try she's just never happy and back stabbing u in the back.. i watch the kids for her any time she needs someone to, matter of fact she just got back from a week in VA and i watched the kids for her..the kids go to school in our district.. so they easily just ride the bus to and from school to our house on those days .. and today i opened my daughters Homework book .. ( a parent has to sign every day to show that they know their child did their homework if u dont the child gets in trouble at school ie no recess) So i signed her homework papers so she wouldnt get in trouble.. So the x wife comes back.. and writes in the book to the teacher that THE STEP MOTHER HAS NO LEGAL RIGHT TO SIGN ANY PAPERS and scratches out my name..what a wacko

I can understand if they were formal documents.. or permission slips, but its just homework assignments .. and its only when her kids stay with us .. ughhhhh

Oh plus she's pissed off at me cause about a year and a half ago i got sick of her just walking into my house like she owned the place so i asked her to wait till she was invited in before just coming into our house.. she likes to believe because she has kids with my husband that shes queen bee and she's the one that left him..

Yes i have a "WONDERFUL" step mother myself and my mom was very hateful to her and tried very hard to turn us against my step mother..and i cant stand watching my kids going through the same thing..

Answer 1

She sounds like a full blown double barrel BITC H! Making an @$$ out of herself over the school papers sounds like something my ex would have done. For about a year my ex-wife did the same to my wife. My ex-in laws even acted like a horse's @$$ to my wife. Then my wife and I gained custody over the boys and everything changed. We now had the hammer, still do. Talk about a attitude adjustment! They are very nice and civil now(imagine that?) Glad to say we never acted the same way back. They have been told no a few times but it wasn't to pist them off, still funny though!. Its good to have the hammer! Hang in there, don't let it get you down, Good Luck!

Answer 2

Not a step mom. No ex from hell, but I have two girls in the Va. school system. I know what your talking about. The assignment log is not a legal contract or a legal document of any kind. Thefore nooooo legal right is needed to sign the book. DUHHH Some people, try to be "tecnical" in such trivial ways! It's the childs book, and the child may allow whom ever they please to sign off on thier book as the teacher instructed them to do. Also, it was paid for with your tax money too!!!

Answer 3

I know how you feel. My fellas ex is the same way. She is stupid though. She put her getting a new car that she can't afford ahead of her putting food on the table for the child. She lost her job and went on vacation. Me and my husband have the child 95% of the time. We feed the child, put clothes on the childs back, make sure the homework is done, and all of the other stuff that needs to be done with the kid. So I feel sorry for you. There is more that the stupid women has done but there isn't enough room on the page. So keep you head high and bite your tongue. Cause I know how it is.

Answer 4

I am experiencing a similiar problem. It is with my husbands baby's mother. She is envious because he married me, it has been 2 years and she is still very petty. We changed our home phone and it is unlisted, because she felt she could call anytime she wanted, and was sometimes disrespectful. Now he only communicates with her through his cell phone, and when she is bitching, he will just turn the phone off. This is making me and his life much easier, because I don't have any contact with her. When the kids come on the weekends, she blows the horn and my daughter lets them in, this way me and my husband eliminate the drama. She is not trying to change, but she will not make our relationship a mess, which is her plan. My advice to you, continue to keep the drama down, like with the boundaries you set where she can't just walk in anytime. Also talk with your husband for suggestions you to can come up with to see the kids, but less as possible of her, even if that means through the court.

Answer 5

She's a control freak and is pissed it didn't work out between her ex and her (consequently, you happen to be married to him).

Kill her with kindness.

When she's about to stop by, have some cookies/fav. food laid out for her. Nice gestures to make her feel she's still part of the family as until those kids are 18, she is still a part of their lives, meaning, she's going to be around, whether you want her there or not.

You can choose the eye-for-an-eye route, but it'd make those remaining yrs that much more difficult.
Being nice, eventually she won't have much choice...she'll feel like a moron being a ***** all the time.

And, buy yourself the book "how to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.
When you're finished, loan it to her.
I kid you not, it could do wonders for your indirect relationship with her.
:)
good luck!!

Answer 6

!!!WOW!!! it not only sounds like you have a big problem with the EX, but it sounds like you married a PUSSSSY husband who don't have the ballsss enough to stand up to his ex. plus I bet he feels guilt for screewing up his kids life's.... you have got to be the most stupid woman ever to walk this planet. """why in the world would you sign up for this crap"""?????? did some guy just walk up to you on the street and ask you to marry him and you said yes??? cause then I would believe you if you said you didn't know about his ex... BUT other wise "YOU ASKED FOR IT"!!! you need to shut up because you did this to your self not only did you see this crap while you were growing up and your mother was the evil ex wife , but then you put your self in the same crapppy mess as a grown up... Girl you have big problems, seek some kind of counciling pleeease.if your head was in the right place you would have ran away from this guy and his ex wife at first sight, you really need to sit down and ask your self why you did not do that in the first place, and ask why your still there trying to fit into all this mess. you don't belong don't you get it they don't want you there..... your huby sees you as the rest stop between going rounds with his ex...and to her your just another thing to use against him and the kids. wake up woman you have no power in this situation..... but you won't look at the truth cause you would rather believe you could make things better some how......well your stepmother couldn't why would you be any different.....Blind is the woman who fears the truth.....

Answer 7

yea she sounds like my mother and you sound like my step mother. my mother called the police on her for makeing my brother take a nap : / it got out of hand the hate my mother had for her,she was over my father but no matter how hard my step mom tryed,she was made to be the biggest cu%t in the world. hmmm 15 years later and they still cant be in the same room,but i as a mother myself dont understand my mothers hate for her? its been years let it go! at least try to be friends with her on some level.

Answer 8

I am sorry Preciosa.
That is the reason I broke up with a wonderful man that otherwise I would have married -- his ex from hell is very ungrateful and evil hearted and so seems to be their child

Answer 9

Keep being a great step mom. You cannot change her. Limit your interaction with her and concentrate on the great job you are doing. Know you will never win her over and even if you did it doesnt say much because she is very ungreatful.

Answer 10

Im a stepmonster and i have no problem with ex, she even comes visits me when husband is gone....Hearing horror stories like yours im greatful i dont have these problems, but walking into your home, that would just freak me out....Also you are a parent you can sign the book....Go back and add your name to the book..... :)