i am having some problems with my mind right now about my marriage and then i go to the singles page and ask questions on there about guys liking me. jonathan doesn't like it that i do this but i can't help it. please help me i think i am loosing it here lol.
2006-09-08 17:17:23 · 8 answers · asked by waverunner 500 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
weight isn't a big thing for him but i am not getting loved and i am drying up. i am just trying to find someone to love me? its no attention and no sex and no showing up. i am very very sad.
2006-09-08 17:30:00 · update #1
i still love him if he would love me??
2006-09-08 17:34:51 · update #2
he doesn't know i am doing this right now. but i am depressed so bad i am doing it. i want to stop but how can i when i never see him?
2006-09-08 17:45:47 · update #3
i swear i need encouragement at this point..he is being very heartless. 2 yrs of caring and trying to show i love him isn't paying off.
2006-09-08 17:48:35 · update #4
my love isn't hitting him i don't think.
2006-09-08 17:49:23 · update #5
someone please pray for us please..pray for me for some strength and for him that he will love me again.
2006-09-08 17:53:00 · update #6
Hey, sweetheart, you have a lot of questions about weight. I didn't read the questions in depth, but I probably should have. Anyway, has your man been indifferent to you or supportive? Has he made you feel bad? If none of those are a problem, then you've fallen into an unrealistic desire to be thin and model like, possibly. I wouldn't worry so much, it sounds like you take care of yourself. Listen, if it's that big a problem for you, try a diet that's good for you. It will make you feel better and look better as well. I'm going to go ahead and mention the place, but I'm not endorsing them because of working there or anything, it's just a really good way to lose weight. See if there's an LA Weightloss center near you. I went on the diet, lost some weight, but more importantly, I've learned how to eat the right things, and I feel great!
2006-09-08 17:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the two of you should see a marriage counselor that could work on both of your problems. I couldn't help but notice you have a lot of questions regarding your marriage, and also some on the singles and dating. I know that this is a site where we go to ask questions annonymously. But he may feel like because you are asking so many, you are publicizing your problems which I am sure he feels are very personal. And by the way, you can help it. It may be incredibly tempting, you can. If can't keep from coming in the singles page when you come to Y answers. Then don't come here anymore. Don't even turn on the computer if that is what it takes. You are putting your marriage in seriouse Jeporday. You are already begining to cheat on him in your mind. So stop.
2006-09-12 05:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your other question. He's not paying attention to you. If he doesn't like it then maybe he should pay attention to you. It doesn't make what your doing right, ... but that's why your doing it right? This won't help the lack of attention in the long run, in fact it might be counterproductive so you need to fix this at the root level or else it might turn into something worse. That would definitely get his attention and probably some papers from a lawyer. I think you just want his eyes to light up when he sees you not to punish him for lack of attention, but that's how he will feel if you keep it up. Then the cycle will continue, and nobody will be happy.
2006-09-09 00:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are losing it. It goes back to that grass is always greener on the other side thing. Most people always think about the things they can't have. He is right for not liking it though. Just ask yourself how you would feel if he did the same thing. That is how I always judge if I think I am doing something that might hurt someone.
2006-09-09 00:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your partner give you compliments? Why are you having to go out and get your own. Low self esteem, vanity, insecurity these are issues you need resolved.What can Johnathon do for you to stop you searching for your own compliments? Although I do admit that a good compliment does make me feel great,I don't go demanding them of people. I feel if compliments come naturally and sincerely they will be more of an honest answer.
2006-09-09 00:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've lost it! And your in jeopardy of losing your marriage if you keep going on singles pages to ask for advice. If your going to go on line and ask for advice you should be going on marriage pages and ask couples who can give you sound "MARRIAGE" advice, get it! It sounds like you want out of the marriage by your behavior. You need to ask yourself if YOU still want to be married.
2006-09-09 00:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by ausaramenra2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to ask your self if you still love your husband. i my self have just gone through a divorce after 10 long years. life is to short to be miserable. i think you have to ask your self some really hard questions then act on them
2006-09-09 00:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by connie p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you can help it.
But you do it anyway.....(right?)
2006-09-09 00:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋