ok. this may sound wierd but i need to know something, this is my first time having sex and i am really nercous so i need some tips on what to do and what not to do......................and ya please don't think that i am young i am 19 and i just want to have a great time with some great sex, because i really love my bf................
2006-09-08 17:03:40 · 5 answers · asked by babe33 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
First, relax! Sex SHOULD be fun when you're with the right person and you feel good about it.
Next, be ABSOLUTELY SURE you've got reliable birth control. Nothing is a bigger mood killer than worrying about possibly getting pregnant.
Find a place that you won't feel weird (like a cheap motel) or that you might get interrupted (like your dorm room or something). That's also a huge mood killer. Plus the more time you have to REALLY explore each other and get turned on, the more exciting it will be and the less anxious you'll be.
Also, you may want to get some lubrication. I know this sounds odd, but really. It will help if you're uptight (and you probably will be for your first time) to ease the initial penetration.
Another penetration tip would be for you to be on top. Its not as awkward as it sounds, and this way YOU control the speed, depth, and intensity of the penetration. If it is too uncomfortable you can stop for a second; it's too hard to explain what's going on to a guy who's all excited and (well frankly) not terribly interested in anything but "doing it." After the initial penetration, you can switch positions if you want to try something different.
Finally, my last piece of advice is to be TOTALLY sure you want to do this, and that its not something you feel pressured to do. If you're doing it because you feel you have to or your obligated to, you'll end up regretting it later on and feeling bad about it.
Have fun with your 1st time - you only get one!
2006-09-08 17:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are nervous enough to take the time and ask people you do not know then you may not be ready! I would hope that my daughter would come to me and talk. She is fifteen, but I have always told her it isn't my choice or the man choice when she is ready. It is only hers! We have talked about this subject since the first time she asked me What is Pns and Vga? and why do boys have one and girls have the other? I think maybe the person to give you the advice is yourself or someone you trust!!
2006-09-09 00:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by no.#1 Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are you nervous? Are you being pressured? Ask yourself do I really love this person and if you do the nerves turn into deep feelings you've never experienced before. Then nature takes its course. It will be the best time you have ever experienced, Yes you will have a great time and a memory you will never forget..
2006-09-09 00:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by itsmeluhello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are this nervous maybe you are going to do this for the wrong reasons, maybe you need to take a step back and think about your decision before acting on it. You only get ONE first time and it should be VERY SPECIAL and MEMORABLE and maybe this isn't that time and that's OK. Good Luck to You!
2006-09-09 00:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by lainey lain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both should take it slow and don't try to do as the porn stars do just let it happen naturally
2006-09-09 00:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by coolray44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋