as he used to be.
The other night I thought he had fallen asleep while I was giving him a b/j. I became upset and didn't finish, which made him angry.
But that wasn't the first time he didn't touch me or show any reaction.
We're to young for this to be happening.. Can you all help ?
*A lifetime of Performance* ;))
2006-09-08 16:35:21 · 15 answers · asked by crystallamp 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sit down and have a talk with him and tell him what you told us.
2006-09-08 16:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, it's time to explore new ideas in the bedroom ? On second -thought , it doesn't even have to be the bedroom! It could be anywhere in the house that might just help to re-spark a bit of Zest back into your sexual-relationship .
Considering that most sexual-endeavors are greatly linked to fantasies. Then maybe it's time you become "woman" again ( and not just wifey)...and try tapping into some of his wildest fantasies. Every man has them, & almost never out-grows them .
Try talking or luring him into partaking in a bit of "role-playing" between hubby & wife.
Or even consider performing your next b/j on him while shopping at the mall or in the movie theater. Somewhere public & a bit daring !
I mean face it , having your meals(sex) served the same way for 10 whole yrs... would be enough to make any man appreciate an entire menu change . Smile .
I warn though, it might just have to be you to initiate the changes in your sexual-pattern . Because a lot of us married men ( after having married) become rather shy about our "sexual-fantasies "... foolishly thinking that wifey just won't see us (husband) the same after loosening up our ties.
Well, in any event... i do wish you all the luck in getting that "Torch" lit again !
2006-09-08 17:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me, that is one of the reasons that my wife of 12 years has left me. It is called neglect. You need to have a serious talk with your husband with no distractions and be as serious and firm as you can and make him understand that you are a woman and women have needs and he is not meeting your needs and you love him but your desire to be sexually pleased is going to ruin your marriage if he does not start to pay attention to you. I can speak from experience, I did the same to my wife and she left me 5 days ago and I quickly realized that I was a fool to let my lovely, sexy wife of 12+ years slip away from me. Now I have to endure the gut wrenching pain and the sleepless, lonely nights crying and longing for my best friend. If you can get him to realize how life would be without you, I think he will have second thoughts about not even trying to please you. Only 5 days for me but it feels like a lifetime. If my wife does come back she will have to beat me off her and not just now but for as long as I am healthy enough for sex and she wants it too. Have a healthy talk with him, if that does not work try therapy.
2006-09-08 17:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by sharkscue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your enabling him to act like this by not putting ur foot down, start actting as u could care less about sex with him anymore.. take care of yourself when he's not around, and act as if ur just not interested in sex from him anymore.. dont be touchy feely, or affectionate with him.. act like u dont have a care in the world.. go out and buy urself something that is new, something sex, something that makes u feel sexy underneath even if ur the only one that see's it.. do ur hair, get ur nails done.. and act as if this is all totally normal for u.. He'll take notice.. he'll think something up .. and he'll wonder why... a mind is a beautiful thing to use when u want to get something out of someone.. dont argue dont belittle his sex drive that will only stigmatize him and lower his ego to a point that he wont want to have sex.. and the idea is to make him want it.. it may take him a bit to realize somethings different but dont give up.. stick to it.. he'll eventually come around.. and when he does.. dont stoop to his level.. and turn him down.. actually go with it.. and make love to ur husband.. the idea is to get him to initiate and to get him to "want" u.. and thats what he'll be doing.. Most men want the chase.. make him chase u for it..
2006-09-08 16:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, hmmm...you have a boyfriend, a husband, interested in a guy that is 5'6 and you are 5'9 (oh and you are worried how you look in your shoes)...summarizing your recent questions...
SO are you really a lying cheating woman who can't revive her marriage because of infidelity and the reason your husband doesn't...could be he senses SOMETHING IS WRONG. Well, hmmm...please sort out my life on Yahoo Answers??? Are you kidding girl???
Well???
2006-09-08 16:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all get tied up in our day to day things and not take the time to say what we need to say to each other,and take no time out for fun,you need to think back when you fell in love with him and he needs too and see what made you fall in love with each other in the first place, and go from there,start relaxing and going out and have fun,make it a date,put spark back into the marriage and then you can enjoy your sex life.
2006-09-08 16:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex / Marriage go hand and hand. If he wants it he should satisfy you to. I suggest, the next time you let him wait and you go first. A man should always please the lady first. If he doesn't agree, then tell he can use his own hand. Then you go to Passionsparties.com and buy yourself something fun. No woman has to do without.
2006-09-08 16:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by GO YANKEES! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I'm in this same situation with my husband and we've only been married 2 years. Ugh.
2006-09-08 17:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just need a little loving on the side.
2006-09-08 16:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by DoUNeedMore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you post a question that you and your boyfriend went to a casino? Are you married or not? Are you cheating?
2006-09-08 16:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋