I have this high school mate. She was good to me once when I was very ill and I never forgot that. We continued to differnt Uni's and we remains good friends.
I shared most of my private life with her, all my failures and lack of luck in relationships. She took cues from me and even told me she apprecitaes the fact that I share mine with her and she is learning . But she never shares her private life with me- just a little.
She is now married and I am not but over seas now.
Months ago I took our conversations to babies and childbirth thinking she will tell me she is expecting or sth. She respnse was that, she was waiting. In less than 8 months, it was her husband who sent me a mail and told me the yjust had ababy. That info ws not even the main aim of the email- I almost missed that last message in the mail.
I was very hurt. A freind I share all with, learnt from my mistakes and made things better for her self (I am tepted to think now). Even her babybumb she kept from me.?
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2006-09-08 16:29:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well maybe she didn't feel you were close as you used to be and had other friends she would tell first. or maybe she was worried that something would go wrong with the baaby and so didn't want to tell people in case it all got around and then she had to explain something personal to people/ If you kept up communications then she was kind of out of line but it sounds like you haven't spoken or met in ages. Some friendships just fade out and you're both at different stages in your life with new friends.
2006-09-09 01:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by saxyphone! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not offending you, you can consider her as a friend, maybe not the best, but still as friend, because as you said, you shares a lot with her when you were young. But things happen as our age are getting older. The more mature we are, the more differences in thinking, action, behaviour, complicate in lots of difference occasions,etc. What i want to tell you is that don't be upset, i know it's a difficult time, because you think misses something, misses some kind of the happy moments, but this will not be erased, this will be forever in your mind.
The meaning of friends is not always have to be in a close contact, if it is real friend, even miss-contact each other, once bump up on the street still have lots to talk and to be shared and to have a great laugh too!
2006-09-08 17:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mecoves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becuase you share everything with her and are happy to, youd expect her to give back, right? i mean, thats what friends do. so if you feel like there is a lack of effort on her part then you might be right.
if she kinda kept the baby bump from you then maybe you might of over invested your friendship with her. i can tell you value your friendship with her but, she may not see it the same way. there can be many reasons like you guys have moved on now, shes just secrective about things or just busy.
options i can give you are
1. to ask her in a nice way about being shy about the baby bum from you
2. remember the bond you had with her and maybe step back, dont give too much when the dont do the same. just give as much as she does.
3. share your inner toughts with someone you trust
hope that helps - dave.
2006-09-08 17:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like saying this, but a friend is not necessarily for life. Sometime things change such as a marriage, or life still change and people don't know how to deal with it. They have had such dramatic changes in their life that they think you might not understand and it is to much for them to explain in detail that they just move on and hope you understand. It does not mean you won't be friends, just not as close as you once where. Hope this gives you an idea about why she did that. I don't think it was to hurt you personally.
2006-09-08 17:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by peacocktrail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly honey i comprehend how u sense i had a perfect buddy do an identical issues to me yet they didnt circulate he basically began taking his anger out on me. SO that's what i did i didnt say sorry i waited for him to say sorry to me becuase i didnt ought to say sorry with the aid of fact i didnt do something worng i replaced into being a stable buddy. I additionally provide up speaking to him 4 a quick time so possibly thats what u ought to do provide her a smash provide her it sluggish to her self with the aid of fact the extra u attempt to be there the extra she'll push u away yet after she starts to omit u she would manage to say sorry and issues gets extra appropriate have faith me
2016-11-06 22:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not overwhelmed she is been sly all along ..she has used maybe even laughed at you ....you should let her go ..friendship was only from your part, never from her
get ove rit friends like that you are better off without
good luck with new friends and hopefully you have learned from this experience
2006-09-08 16:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by angelica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its okay just give her a chance now that she's gotta family to take care of she would probably busy most of the time.belive me i know this cause it's wut IS happening with my mom u c! even when u will be a mom u will be very busy cuz u have a family to look after and belive it or not ... it's kinda hard to make everything perfect to your husband and children it will take alot of your time.
2006-09-08 23:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please give her a chance........She is probbly overwhelmed now with the baby and family.......Pregnancy and the changing of hormones will make you act different also........Give her time, I'm sure she'll come around.....Take care..........
2006-09-08 16:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, no question.
2006-09-11 13:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kamran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is sad.i don't think that she was a friend to you ever.
2006-09-08 19:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋