Do any other people have this problem? You share everything with your spouse for years and years, things that interest you. Then you realize you are talking to a wall, and you dont really know anything that he is interested in because he doesnt seem to have any interests. Yet he says he loves you, of course he does, he conveniently knows everything about you. How can a woman actually love a man who doesnt have any interests or share anything with her?
2006-09-08 16:22:34 · 7 answers · asked by *zz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you know my husband because you're describing him. Trust me, he doesn't know me at all. I know him better than he knows himself, but he has no clue about me.
I don't know whether it happens after a certain age or a time in their lives when the focus of their job changes (maybe thinking more about a final career change or retirement) or physical changes in their bodies, but they begin to live in their own little world. Perhaps it's because the kids are grown and don't need him in the same way they did when they were little. Grandkids may just make him feel older. I think in my husband's case, it's partly because his friends/associates are having heart attacks, retiring and moving away, getting divorced/remarried/having affairs, whatever. After years of being ignored I've discovered a life for myself. Maybe he can't handle it. Yet there may be the fear of living alone and lonely.
I realized I don't love him anymore. I like him. I admire him. I respect him. But, I'm going to have my own life now--develop interests I put aside years ago and make friends of my own--and that aren't necessarily going to be couples with us.
2006-09-08 23:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by goldie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because he is a rock and probably stupid. If he has no other interest that's a good thing for a woman because when men have interests the woman is just a toy for them. Also, if a man is ambitious he looks for bigger better things so you'll only be good for him until you get old. You might consider yourself lucky in those ways. As long as he's stupid and have no interests then you can control him. The moment he gets smart and becomes ambitious - you get thrown out like a piece of trash.
2006-09-08 16:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by God 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like u need to get the spark and activities back in your marriage.
He probably has hidden talents u need to uncover, go on hikes,draw pics, sit under an evening sky, share life.
2006-09-08 16:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I still know myself better than he knows me...at least a bit. But, I know him more than he knows himself sometimes so...go figure.
Just remember to keep the lines of communication open on both sides.
2006-09-08 16:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after being together for 5.5 years, and been friends for 6 years, yes I do feel that way
2006-09-08 16:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Newlywed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all about the attitude, have a postive attitude and simple life
2006-09-08 16:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by rosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.....
2006-09-08 16:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋