At what age should you have sex?

Question

i was wondering when a person should have sex? after merage or before?

Answer 1

When you get married is ideal.
Don't feel you have to have sex at a certain age....it really is something you should wait for.

Even tho it was my hubby I was having sex with at 16, we were not married then. :( 3 years later we married (but also had a child...whoops, condoms break and pills don't work...I have a 5 year old as proof!)

We are a rare breed, married young, children young but still together. So we are lucky.

And as much as I love my daughter and would never want to give her up for anything, i wish we waited. Wedding night wasn't as special as I imagined as a pre-teen and early teen. :(

Answer 2

There is no 'right' age for sex. Some people mature faster than others and everybody has a different set of circumstances. Ideally, after marriage is best because the participants have made a decision to support each other no matter what happens. No matter what precautions you take, there is always a chance of becoming pregnant and of contracting a sexually transmitted disease. If you aren't ready to deal with these consequences then you aren't ready to have sex.

Answer 3

I feel you should have a steady boyfriend or girlfriend before you have sex. I think you should be able to openly talk about pregnancy before you engage in sex. If you feel you are ready to take the risk of getting pregnant with someone who does not have a job, is not a high school graduate, and you feel you want to work constantly to provide food for yourself and the child along with rent, bills, car payments etc....then I think you are ready. Sex is really not that good when you are young because you are still trying to figure it out. You are the only one who knows if you can take that risk, and you are the only one who is going to support yourself after you are 18. And even if you think that your parents will pay and keep you safe, remember you are still going to have a child for the rest of your life no matter where you live or who is paying.

Answer 4

well honestly..it should happen wen ur married...but the culture around us and the peer pressure and also not wanting to get married till a certain age comes as a wall for people and thats why they have sex so early..and in a case such as this where society comes first i say a person should have sex after 18..so that he or she knows that they are both responible for the pleasure that they desire and also the consequences in case something goes wrong..and anyone younger than that having sex..boy or a girl...should have equal punishment or fine for having irresponsible sex and being too young to have sex(under 18)

Answer 5

Oh my! You should seriously discuss this with your Mother! If you can't speak with your Mom, try an Aunt or depending on your relationship with your Dad or an Uncle - go that route. I know it was incredibly difficult to ask mine at first, but trust me in the long run they'd prefer you ask. There is no age limit or requirement and there is no hurry - take it easy, relax and don't be in such a hurry.

Answer 6

When you are mentally and finacially able to handle with any and all reprocussions of having sex. Pregnancy, diseases, health problems, UTI's, and mental issues are all things you might have to consider.

I am not saying you should wait for marriage, but wait until you are older- say, AFTER you move out of your moms house. Also, wait until after you are through college and have had a few years to explore your life!

(i would have loved to waited until being married, but i am 30 now and just NOW going to be married!!)

Answer 7

Depends on how you were raised and what you believe. I think that its best to wait till you are with that special person that you love-truly love. Think before you act about if you get PG would you be able to have this person in your life for the next 18 years?

Answer 8

When you are mature enough to assume responsibility for the possible consequence of it (read: a baby). Preferably after marriage, too. IOW, age 30 or so is good.

Answer 9

I think you know when the time is right. I think that you have to be mature enough to take responsibility if something should happen that you wouldn't want to happen like having a baby. If you aren't ready to face the consequnces and be responsible about having sex then you shouldn't have it.

Answer 10

It doesn't matter if it is before marriage or after, it should just be with someone special, someone you love and someone who loves you just as much and respects you as a woman. Of course, you should be financially stable as well, to be able to take up the responsibility of raising a child, if need be.