A relationship I liked has just went to the drain and it seems it can't be fixed, she hasn't called, and I'd better don't wait for a call since she doesn't have a simple sign that she loves me. It was one of those circunstances that on week 6 was COMPLETELY IN LOVE AND THAT FREAKED ME OUT then 6 months later a bump we had on the relationship completely ruinned everything and in matter of days was completely forgotten about what we had and who I was in her life. I don't understand woman. Does everybody agree that what comes fast will leave fast?. Please name some details of what are the best things to do to get better from something like this, any ideas, everything will help and will be appreciated!!!
2006-09-08 15:39:05 · 20 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you sound like you are very inexperience in relationships
by definition when both partiues get in love it's not considered love at all, but more of an enfatuation, true love does not set in till WAYYY later
you are both 2 polite at the begining, flaws on both sides ( and no one is perfect ) fade away and are forgiveable..
then over time once you really set into the relationship you get into selfish love
demands are made on both side and met
once this stage is passed do you finally get to mature love
but even then you have the constant need for reinforcement ( usaually from the women )
after that if you surive you hit what is called mature love
this is true love and both parties are comfortable and know one another
most do not make it to this stage
they usally break at the 2nd stage
it's at the 2nd stage you feel confused after a break up
that is because you are still operating on emotions ( raw ones at that which tend to be selfish oriented ) and not logic
i can guarantee you there is always signs of the impeding break up
there always is
outsider can see it
you can becuase you have disengaged you brain
and operate on emotional impulses
you ignore all the signs and anyones advice to dump that women
and when it happens to you you are crushed like a poor fool
the porblem is that you were ONCE a man / male / guy and you lost your way
in fact she was atttracted to that
you were happy
she was happy
but then she made demand and you conceeded to them
that was your first mistakein effect you have become "soft" or a wuss / pussy / wimp.. what ever you want to call it..
the way to get back is to get back to your roots
what ever you did BEFORE you met her
is what you must now do again
except you hopefully have learned from this
you have to realize in the relationship game BOTH parties are replaceable at will ( just like your job ).. it 's when too much objectionable change happens is when relationships alway falter.
it's why both parties go back to there roots ( women will grow out there hair back and drop weight to find the next "victim"... err guy ) to seek re entry back into the dating scene
2006-09-08 16:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 15:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you lost her. First, NOBODY understands women, not even other women. There is something better for you out there. Do you REALLY want a woman like just dumped you? I don't think so. Let her go, get back into the mainstream and someone will come along. Be patient and particular. Don't rush things. Love doesn't happen over night. It has to be developed and cultivated. Good luck. Pops
2006-09-08 15:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of a three year relationship, and some of the things that are helping me get through it are, working and school, having the time to do the things I loved but stopped doing when my relationship was taking up all my time, like reading, swimming, and hanging out with my friends. I also spend alot more time with my family. I feel that even though I still sometimes look back, focusing on myself and my future really seems to snap me out of it. Good luck
2006-09-08 16:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep busy, go out with friends, answer questions here. 6 weeks, huh? I am on day 5, after 12+ years and suddenly, poof, gone while I was at work. I wish I had her now or 6 weeks behind me. I love her to death and the pain is great, but answering questions here has comforted me a great deal. There are wonderful, thoughtful people that have given me comforting answers. I have realized my mistakes that led to my breakup and have answered wives questions with similar situations like mine. Keep busy, and good luck.
2006-09-08 16:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by sharkscue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Devote yourself to improving yourself. Set a goal, even a short term one, say to get in better shape and then give it a time limit, say 30 days. Then pour all your energy into that. It will help it two ways: First, you will get your mind set on achieving the goal, and second, when you reach the goal, you will feel better about yourself and will likely feel more empowered to go out there and get started dating again.
Oh, and don't answer the phone if she calls under any circumstances.
2006-09-08 15:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus. Ambition is attractive. Concentrate on things you want to accomplish with your life. Things in your life will change and that special someone meant for you will take notice. Don't waste your time moping. She may bounce back in your life or not, but if your focused on accomplishing something, it won't be the world if she doesn't. Your life is more than whether some chick digs you!! (ya, almost 40, I know).
2006-09-08 15:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by hartovalion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can stop loving another person but you have to go on loving yourself. never ever wallow in self pity.
you can keep yourself busy, talk to friends, find a new hobby, meditate.
its ok to get angry but you have to get over the loss. maybe, you werent meant for each other. its better to get out of a realtionship not meant to be than be stuck in it for quite a while coz that would mean that that you wouldnt be meeting the right partner for you.
past realtionships/partners help you be the best partner for your next relationship.
lessons are meant to be learnt in life. life means living
2006-09-08 15:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by balin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to go out. Bog yourself down with work, friends, family. If you arent working then make sure you have plans to do something....anything. In a month or so you will see she isnt on your mind as much as she had been.
2006-09-08 15:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-07 02:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋