He loves me because Im the mother of his children thats all nothing more , i love him with all my heart and it tears me up thinkin he dont love me anymore. But he still wants sex and for me to kix his lunch for work make him his coffee etc. What should I do
2006-09-08 15:35:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best thing for you to do is leave. Why should you be doing all this for him??? He doesn't love you!!!!
2006-09-08 15:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it sounds like he is going through some kind of faze. He did not mention that he wants to leave you, or that he is seeing someone else. and if he doesn't love you, why is he having sex with you. I think he does love you, and is proberbly going through some adult stages.. Try to work it out and tell him how it hurts, and that he makes you cry when he says he does not love you.
maybe he does not believe it bothers you when he says that. Let him know, and ask him if he wants to work things out to make the marriage work for the both of you, and how divorce, (if it comes up) will destroy the stability of the children. They need (both parents) not just one. Children suffer the most in situations like divorce...try to do things together as a real family.. make a picnic date, or movie date, just do it..keep the family together.
2006-09-08 22:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that he loved you deeply before he loves you because you are the mother of his childen, ask him why the change in his feelings for you. May be he is holding back words that may hurt your feelings that he just keep things within himself.
Ask him to have a heart-to-heart talk with you and assure him that you are willing to listen to all the things that he will tell you the same way that you want him to tell you what is inside his heart more especially for you. With that open communication, you may discover things which you've never realized before and from there you can do what is necessary to save your marriage.
Good luck.
2006-09-08 22:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to make plans quick to get out of the marriage.
This is a waste of life and he is just gonna use u for a slave.
Believe me, there is someone better than him that will love u out in the world. So if the flame is over, let go.....
U can live just as good if u just divorce and get child support from this guy. Think of yourself for a change , not his self centered ego. He aint worth it.
2006-09-08 22:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him for my ex, I stopped loving him too, he is merely my children't father. From experience, he is in extensive counseling, but there is always more to the story, I didnt just stop loving him one day. There were instances that tore us apart, slowly, kinda like peeling off a band-aid slowly. Take time, write yourself a timeline of things that have happened in your marriage, but more imprtantly, talk to him and find out what he feels caused these feelings. Good Luck.
2006-09-08 22:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, you must really be hurting now. Was he angry and hows things in the bedroom? Maybe you should just spend a little time away from it all. You deserve a vacation and some time away. Pack your bags and leave him a list of things you need for him to do with your kids and then slip away for a week. He and the kids should do fine.
2006-09-08 22:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has made it perfectly clear. I know it is painful to hear your own husband tell you he doesnt love you, but it's obviously time to get a divorce. I could not continue to play house and make love with a man that has told me he doesnt love me. I would feel used and extremely empty. Do yourself a favor and divorce him, you deserve to be loved.
2006-09-08 22:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your typical marriage. Maybe try and work things out. Seek professional help or self help books.
2006-09-08 22:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by scooba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for some counselling to sort things out. Good luck
2006-09-08 22:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your suppossed to be his wife, not his maid. Its nice to do things for a spouse when they love you but if he doesn't tell him to ring up merry maids.
2006-09-09 00:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋