Like i said I have know this person for ten years we met in german, we have never lost contact but the whole problem is that she was married to one of my friends, for 3 years, now they have seprated but, he dont know that we are thinking about marring i fell bad about this becouse i dont wont to lose him as a friend, but i really dont wont to lose her, And no I was not the reason for there parting.. is what I am doing wrong,
2006-09-08 15:32:35 · 15 answers · asked by dropkick232000 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you did wrong is let your good friend (her) start dating you before she had resolved her marriage. However, it seems to late to do anything about that. Now, the chips are going to have to fall. I suggest you duck and cover. I think you should hold off on 'marriage talk' until her divorce is finalized. Three years is not a long time for a marriage to last, be sure of what happened in her first marriage before you consider her for your own wife.
2006-09-08 15:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude! From what I am reading you are a good friend. The guilt feeling is letting you know that it is wrong. One of the rules of being a Man's Man is never let a woman come between you and your friend.
If the wife of your friend is will to dump her husband for you, she will dump you as well. I am not hating, I am just speaking the TRUTH.
Immediately tell her it is off, don't give her an explanation. Like the group the Average White Band, "I Want A Love of My Own."
On Saturday, treat yourself, go wash your ride, then take it to the park to wax it. and watch all the mommies come out. Play some smooth jazz about 1000, 1100 in the morning. By 1300, you will be having more numbers you ever expected.
2006-09-08 22:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by tmcs1959 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until they are divorced to make sure they do not get back together and that she is truly ready for a relationship with you. It is too soon when someone is newly separated to start a new relationship. Her emotions will be all over the place right now. Just wait.
2006-09-08 22:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Robin N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son was in a relation ship almost like this, his ex married another, and he married his ex best friend, they have a good marrage as does the other couple. So you should be open if you want to stay friends, My son and his wife are great friends with the other couple and write and call each other often
2006-09-08 22:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fyou weren't he cause of the breakup then what can yo possibly be doing wrong. Talk to your buddy and ask if he minds. If he does then the friendship is over. Who;s more important a wife or a buddy.
2006-09-08 22:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by david k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say they are separated but, you don't say divorced. Slow down! She's not ready for a committment like marriage so soon. This could spell disaster! Back off for a while. See her if you want but, tell her marriage can wait for a while.
2006-09-08 22:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was wrong to get involved with this woman in the first place without talking it over with your friend. I think that you do need to tell him, you owe him some sort of honesty.
2006-09-08 22:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with your friend and tell him that you are seeing this girl but explain to him that you dont want to lose his friendship but you really love this girl. It will only hurt the friendship if you are not honest with him.
2006-09-08 22:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Denise T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is none of his bizzwax, so get on with your life and if he finds out let him find out through the grapevine.
Dont worry, be happy
2006-09-08 22:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you dont know what marraige means b/c the person you marry is suppose to be you best friend so scew the other guy
2006-09-08 22:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by jellogiggle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋