At the beginning of our relationship we did it all the time. We have been together for 2 years. Our sex life has decressed alot. maybe 2 to 4 times a month. I love sex. I love him but i am a very sexual person and he is not. He says it's not me it's him. But i dont know what to think.
2006-09-08 15:30:29 · 24 answers · asked by MissPanda 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm 24 and so is he. I did weigh 200lbs but i lost 55 lbs SO I DONT THINK ITS CAUSE IM FAT! I try everything. toys my old strip club uniforms. I've tried to talk to him but i get no real answers. I've even went as far as anal. I dont understand. Guys hit on me all day long at work. But the only one that matters doesnt want me. he says he has no money for a dr. He's not on meds. I always know where he is so i dont think he's cheating. He's 6'1 and aroung 350lbs. I'm 5'7 and about 145lbs.
2006-09-08 16:29:36 · update #1
So what should i do gain all that weight back?
2006-09-08 16:56:38 · update #2
Well, if you're 5'7" and 145 and he's 6'1", 350, maybe he's just-- f'r serious-- embarrassed that he's fat and you aren't.
2006-09-08 16:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by DAL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might try to talk to him about this. Is it just sex or are there other things going on with him in or outside of the relationship that is causing this? And I don't want to sound mean, but he may not be interested anymore and for some reason (people) don't know how to tell you that. Besides, it is not uncommon for people to decrease the amount of sex they have in a relationship after being together for awhile. Hopefully, this is not it. Talk to him and maybe you'll find out he wants something different like excitement or romance. Not just sex. Take him to a sex shop and see what turns him on. Hell see what turns you on together. You never know...maybe it is him. Whatever the case don't take it personal. You're not married and if you love sex that much maybe he's not the one you want to be with anyway.
2006-09-08 15:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by seek&ishallfind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 36 and have been married for 7years with three wonderfull kids and up till now i'm still sexually active. We make love minimum 3 times a week. I think the most important thing is communication. I've been putting 100% in my marriaged life and would tell how much i love my wife daily (if not busy).
2006-09-08 16:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 21:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually boredom. He's use to you. Get sexy for him. Try this:
Dress in something almost transparent for the top. For the bottom, short tight pants (not panties) that are so short he can only see a little bit of your butt. That drives most of us crazy. Oh, and don't make any comments or insinuate that you want him. That will ruin everything. Don't tell him that you wanted him to do something for you. Just smile and pretend to start doing something else that does not involve sex.
2006-09-08 15:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dolf-Wolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the best thing. There can be many reasons why. If the relationship is worth saving, ask your boyfriend to visit a doctor and go along with him. Ask for him to be honest with what's going on. If he can not be honest or not willing to take your suggestion, ask him how he feels this situation needs to be addressed. If he is not willing to save the relationship, he probably will not be willing to do anything to make it work. If that is the case, it is best to accept it and move on.
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2006-09-08 15:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lyndadi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honeymoon is over. Lust only lasts for a few years and after that it becomes routine. I think he is over the lust part and is now in the routine part that is only once in awhile. Guys just tire of the same old thing so try lighting a fire under him and do something different.
2006-09-08 15:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how old you both are. Is he on any meds? Have you changed? Maybe its meds, maybe its physical or depression, lost attraction to you, or possibly someone else is taking up his time & energy. Ask him to go for a physical checkup... if he checks out ok, both of you should see a counselor.
2006-09-08 15:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by PJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you might want to consider spicing thing up a bit??? Do something different or try to be more spontaneous. Surprise him.
If, after that, his attitude hasn't changed.......he needs to see a doctor........(unless he's turned gay, has another woman on the side or just going through a slump)
2006-09-08 15:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he on an anti-depressant?? (Paxil, Zoloft, Prozac). Those meds decrease sex drive. But that amount of sex is really the norm for most human beings.
2006-09-08 15:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by CRSrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he depressed for any reason or have a lot on his mind.or stressed out at work? all these factors play a role in men not wanting sex sit him down and try to talk to him to see what the problem is and try to work on it together
2006-09-08 15:34:01 · answer #11 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋