how can i stop doing this?

Question

i'm one of those people who when trying to say a simple sentence, say it in a very complicated way, for example: "it's like my parents werent home and we couldnt do it because they like werent home because they were gonna go out so u know, we couldnt really do it"
how can i not do this anymore? and just say things normally and in a simple way?

Answer 1

Does it really matter how you say things? As long as people can understand you what does it matter. Why should anyone else be telling you how to communicate when I am sure they have flaws themselves. Just relax, take no notice and just be yourself mate. Your stressing about nothing.

Answer 2

Three steps:
One: take a good, long pause and consider exactly how you want to respond tothe the question or comment that has been posed. Don't let anyone "hurry you up" about your answer either. While time is a precious commodity, it's relative. In most cases, we have "more time" than we think we have.
Two: focus on the one or two specific bits of information that have been placed in the flow of the conversation. In your example, it seems that someone wanted to know why you/they couldn't do something. It seems to me there is a house rule that if your parents are away, you are not to have/do certain things. This is the "specific bit of information" about which someone else is asking.
Three: choose some specific words in which to make your response, but don't say anything just yet... forget about trying to sound "cool" or "with it" or "hip" by using all the crutches such as "LIKE", "UMMM", "YOU KNOW", "SOOO - (whatever)" and any other extra words that have crept into our sentence structure, THEN JUST SAY: "My parents went out. They've said to me don't do stuff like that when they are away. I'll do what they ask, so I'm not going to do that."

...be prepared for comebacks...your buds will ask you if you're for real...just simply tell them "yes." ... and don't do the thing you know you can't do.

Answer 3

Actually, you must do the exact opposite: you must expand your vocabulary, the amount of words you know to use. "it's like my parents werent home and we couldnt do it because they like werent home because they were gonna go out so u know, we couldnt really do it" Rather self contradictory in that description, whereas in this one "i'm one of those people who when trying to say a simple sentence, say it in a very complicated way," sounds more intelligible. Descriptions are compounded in larger words or words with descriptions more accurate to the reality you are trying to describe. Language is for helping others to identify what you have identified for yourself in reality. 'Normal' in this context is what is normal experience for you in your context. If you have a clear understanding of your purpose for communicating something with a clear conscience, then you may do better. In your example it appears you time references are conflicted. Why, who, when, where, what, how. It sounds as if you difficulty thinking at the spur of the moment. Think in advance of that spur.

Answer 4

stop using the word "like", it'll make the sentence sound much simpler. Use less conjunctions (and, but, because etc.) And pause to form the sentences in your head before you say them out loud, because improvising might make you nervous and tempted to blabber.

If none of those work, simply let your sentence trail off in the middle: ex."it's like my parents werent home and so we couldnt do it, you know...." After a while you will get used to speaking in short concise sentences.

Answer 5

It's known as verbal diarrhea, and you need an Imodium.

You've given permission for your mouth to continue working (probably because you're uncomfortable with pauses in speech) without necessarily engaging your brain. So, there you are standing in front of someone you want to impress, and your mouth just takes off on you, and your brain is SCREAMING at your mouth to JUST SHUT UP! but nothing at all is going to shut you down, and you are just ssssssooooo embarrassed, and think "Why am I even alive!"

Is that about it?

You need to learn how to shut your mouth. THINK about what you want to say first. So there will be a pause, so what. It's not the end of the world. In fact, it's normal for people to have to think of a reply to a question, before they voice it.

And practise, practise, practise.

Answer 6

Practice simple sentences NORMALLY in the mirror first

as you get comfortable try other sentences

now try longer sentences and multiple sentences

Talk to a friend normally and keep it simple

get more advanced as the conversation goes on

talk to people normally and your grammar problem will be gone

Hope it helps

Answer 7

Take an English course. What you really suffer from is a good basic understanding of the English language. A good English professor will set you in your tracks in no time.

Answer 8

I'm not an expert. But. I suggest taking up writing and studying "how to write" guides. Improving written communication might help your verbal skills.

Answer 9

Train yourself. You're basically repeating the same stuff because you don't have any direct reasons to back everything up. You could've basically said, "My parents weren't home so we couldn't do it." Enough said.

Answer 10

You just need to slow your mind down a little. Your mouth is moving before you have decided what to say. You're okay, man. Don't worry about it!