When my parents found out my buddy Zach was gay, my Mom told me that if I was she would support me no matter what. My Dad skirted the issue entirely and changed the subject. I know his family will probably disown me, but I'm not sure how my Mom's family will react. They seemed fine with my buddy being gay, but it is slightly different when it is your own family. Any advice on coming out but not a too "in your face" approach?
One note for the religious people who will undoubtably be answering my question by bringing Jesus and God into the picture, I AM AN ATHEIST.
Help would be greatly appreciated!!
2006-09-08 15:27:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Good Luck! It doesn't sound like it will go too bad for you. I would tell Mom first, since she expressed support, and then get her to help you tell Dad. You could be pleasantly surprised at everyone's reaction.
2006-09-08 15:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by theobromo77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell mom first, she has already given you the a ok. She extended her support to you and you haven't even told her so I'm sure she'll be fine with it. She probably made that comment because she already knows or at least thinks it. There's no way for her to "know" cuz you haven't told her lol :) After you tell her the two of you need to figure out how to break the news to dad. He may be upset about it but he's your dad and your parents will love you unconditionally. What I would suggest doing is taking your mom to lunch and just tell her. That's what I'm going to do. You'll be in a public place so she'll most likely refrain from "freaking out" not that I think she would but it's just more comforting you know? My mom keeps making comments about why I haven't found a nice girl yet so I think the time has come
2006-09-08 22:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My only suggestion is never bring home your partner, and be like, "Mom, Dad, this is -name-, my boy/girlfriend." Then it becomes a bit of a shock, and shock can create problems.
I remember coming out to my mother. She found out through one of the internet sites I use, and for about two weeks, it was pure hell. She was mostly concernedabout the fact that I never told her. Since then, however, she's been extremely tolerant towards me, although I know she doesn't nesseccarily agree with it.
My father does not know, thus creating a slight problem for myself. My father would either disown me, or would not be as tolerant as my mother.
Both sides of my relatives will disown me.
if your parents will support you, talk to them about it. It should not hurt as much as you may think it will.
2006-09-08 23:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Adrik V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe approach your mom first as it sounds as if she might be a little more receptive to the concept of you coming out. Once she is okay with it have her help you approach your dad and the rest of the family
2006-09-08 22:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by katlvr125 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are already totally independent, psychologically and financially,that is the best time, to make your own living and live free!But for now, just be discreet and enjoy your benefits from your parents,but set to it that you behave as a closet queen!Good luck!
2006-09-08 22:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by gabriel s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your Mom was trying to tell you something. That she already knows. So I would maybe take her for lunch or have some quiet ime with her and just tell her. You can decide for yourself if you wan your Dad there or if you would like her to tell him.
2006-09-09 02:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Justme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God sucks... so maybe he is gay. They gave you an opening...so go for it
2006-09-08 22:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by The Shell Answer Man 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
try this
http://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=27259
2006-09-08 22:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋