what is the general mourning period after you loose your spouse?

Question

its not that I am looking for mr right, I just want to know if it is normal to miss having someone to talk to and be with?

Answer 1

I don't know if I will be of any help to you as I went thru what you are going through over a year ago and still mourn my wife's passing.

I have found talking with others on the internet to be the most comforting way to relax and discuss the loss of someone that was close. I have several that I have talked to over the years who have been very helpful to me. I tried the bit with councelling and found that to be some what ignorant methods. In all there is no set period for mouning. I had one heck of a time just talking about it person to person and was not comfortable with that one bit. It took me over a year to finally get the thought that bothered me the most and that was the mourning part of how long to wait and what held me to it. My thoughts turned to my wedding vows... "Til death do us part". That in itself answered my question and I feel more comfortable now. At my age I know now that no one can take my wife's place but if I were younger it would be much easier. I do miss the companionship the most but I just happen to be one who could not find myself to date an over-weight person and of course now a days that seems to be the only ones that are single and available. I have tried the dating system offers on Yahoo and found that to be a total waste. So the best suggestion I can give you is to be careful in what ever way you decide to go and wish you a lot of luck in finding another companion.

Answer 2

I would think that people will talk about it no matter when you deside. There will always be that one person to think that after 50 years of mourning, it would be soon. Then there are alot of other people who would think that when ever you are ready is the perfect time for you to start dating and meeting people. The general mourning period is upto you and only you.

Of course it is normal to miss having someone to talk and be with. How wonderful would it be to have someone to share things with. I cannot believe that your friends and loved ones would like to see you all alone. Even your spouse would not want to see you this way. Do whats best for you. God Bless.

Try yahoo singles, I have and it is fun just to get emails from someone everyday. I havent gone on a date from the site yet, but I have shared emails.

Answer 3

you might be "in mourning" for a year or two--where every birthday, holiday, etc. you still think of him and almost each one makes you cry, but so far as missing having someone to talk and be with, it's also really normal to date pretty soon--even a few months--after a spouse dies, just because of the loneliness factor. I'm 30 and have had two friends lose their spouses this year (both were out of the blue, total surprises and both had great marriages.) My guy friend is in his early 30s and was dating within 2 months. My girl friend is in her early 50s and hasn't dated at all in the 6 months that it's been, and I doubt she'll date for at least a year or more. She has a lot of family members who kinda help out with that need to talk & chill with other people. Best wishes to you, my two friends have had really hard days and really easy days. I hope you're finding easy days more and more.

Answer 4

Hi! Firstly I am sorry for your loss! There is no set rule on specific time for mourning, as everybody mourns differently. You must not feel guilty for wanting someone to comfort you or to talk to thats extremely natural! It sounds a little like your feeling guilty but you should not, it does not change the way you feel towards the person you loved, your reacting as I did so go with your feelings! it will take time but you need to make some steps forwards and look after you! All the luck mate

Answer 5

i believe that there is no such thing as a general mourning period after losing someone so close such as a spouse. i think people have there own general time periods and ways of getting through times like this one. And yes it is normal to miss having someone there by your side to talk to and be with you every second of the day so dont worry about it and take your time in your time of mourning.

Answer 6

It is perfectly normal to miss someone to talk and share with. You were sharing with someone and lost that person, but you still have the need and desire to share. It is a big adjustment to be alone. It is also a bad idea to get too involved too soon while you are still feeling the need rather than a more honest emotion and attraction. Take it slow, at least 6-12 months to put the grieving and loneliness in perspective. Until then keep things casual and if you can do things in groups with friends around so you do not get too close to anyone too soon.

Answer 7

Of course that is normal, I do not know what the general mourning period would be for this, I have not ever been through anything like that, I am sorry to hear that you are, good luck hun.

Answer 8

i don't think there is a general mourning period. you will mourn for that person for as long as it takes. but as time goes by it will get easier. and yes it is very normal to miss having someone to talk to and be with, and to do the everyday things with. but it is important to grieve, but don't isolate yourself. if friends ask you to go out with them ,,,,gooooo. that doesn't mean you are being disrespectfully to the one you lost. and really you need family and friends to help you through this.

Answer 9

It depends on how you loose your spouse. A loose spouse isn't generally a good thing.

Answer 10

Yes- it's human nature to miss that type of contact with another human being. It doesn't mean that you are "over your loss" or have forgotten about your spouse. It just means that you are human. After all, humans are social animals.