He jus broke up w. me like 1 hr ago. He said it doesnt feel right goin out w. me cuz we are best friends. And I loved him the first time I layed eyes on him but he doesn't like me like that. He said it feels weird to go out w. me cuz we're best friends. I wanna die bcuz he doesnt love me back and I would absolutley do ANYTHING FOR HIM. I mean it. I would go die for him. I don't know wat to do. How do i get over him or why do i love him so much?
2006-09-08 14:53:03 · 23 answers · asked by Britty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am so sorry that you have to go through this, and I know how painful this is. I think we all have to go though this at least once in our lives, but it sure does stink when you are in this situation. One thing I can tell you for sure, is that it WILL get better. It will take you some time, but it will get better. Be extra nice to your self these next few weeks, spend some more time with your friends, keep busy, and at least for the next few weeks try to avoid places that he may be at. You can't avoid him forever, and you should not avoid him forever, but at least give your self some space from him for a short while. You will not be able to heal if you keep running into him. What ever you do, don't think it was something that you did or did not do, or that the problem is with you. Women often ask "what is wrong with me, why won't he love me". Remember it is HIS issue, his problem, it is NOT you.
2006-09-08 15:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by Josie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless how long you have been friends and dating each other, I know it's a painful experience for you right now. However, the good news is that you will be OK! Time is indeed the best medicine. Give him time to think it over, and maybe he will change his mind. Give yourself some time to heal too. I don't know how old you are, but be sure to hang it there. If he thinks he doesn't love you know, nothing you do will make him change his mind. Vice versa, you might push him even further away. If it's true love, it will come back to you. For now, just hang out w/ your friends and have a great time. You know - your true love might be out there waiting for you! Good luck and god bless you!
2006-09-08 15:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by erinlovestv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time apart. Months, actually. I was in a 1 yr relationship, and unfortunately, I didn't end up sharing the same feeling that she did, even though I did have strong feelings after a year with her.. Eventually, I had to just cut contact with her, because it was the only way. I waited a month just to contact her to exchange things we had at each others' apartments. Eventually, like 3 months later, we chatted and the wounds were mostly healed. Time does it.
2006-09-08 14:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am going thru the same thing right now. I love this man with my soul, and we were together 2 years and he just told me 2 days ago that he doesn't feel the same way for me. he doesn't love me back. and the only way to get over it is to cry a lot, a WHOLE lot!! talk to a few good friends about it if you need to talk and even tho you guys are "best friends" you should avoid talking to him because it will only prolong your pain, knowing you can't "be" with him in a romantic way. and it can take a long time. several months till you start to feel better. sorry ur going thru this. i know it hurts, hang in there.
2006-09-08 15:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by odelayway 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad thing sometimes, but we don't always get loved by the same people we have intense feelings for. We don't get to choose who we LOVE intensely either, and that's a fact. Love is inexplicable, it's a combination of chemistry, ideals, images, reactions, senses, smells, smiles, and humour.
Welcome to the world, and although it might seem mean, and tough, you will get over him and find someone else --maybe someone that loves YOU intensely, although you may not love HIM, the same way, get it?
It works both ways.
So...what to do? Try and stay friends with your 'best friend', be there for him if he falls and hurts himself emotionally, stay aware of him, meaning stay TUNED to him, and meantime, look around, enjoy all the OTHER guys around that may be just waiting and willing to die for YOU.
Best of luck with that! You shall be FINE.
2006-09-08 15:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, how I feel for you, young thing... I've been there, so I know what you're talking about. It may take years to get over this. Don't let it! He'll turn out to be a loser (like mine did). You can't see that now, however. So fogget about it! At least on the surface. Have FUN! It'll be gone before you know it.
2006-09-08 15:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continuing to focus on him is just a waste of energy and will make you feel progressively worse. You love him more than YOURSELF and that is very very very very very very unhealthy. Focus your energy on God, yourself and what life is trying to offer you. You will attract someone good for you. You don't try to stay away, steer clear or "thought stop" concerning him, that is why you're still stuck. Hope you're better and healing really soon.
2006-09-08 14:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well hello and i know how you feel my best friend since 2 grade said he doesnt like me like that we went out for a bit but then he said i love you like a friend not like a girlfriend and then i finally said to him you know what i feel in love with you the first day i meet you you where my only friend when we met and i am sorry but you cant do this to me he told me how he felt and we talked alot about it and know we are ingaged just tell him how you feel and how you want things to be and say i cant just be friends with you because i love you and maybe just maybe you guys will fall in lovev like me and my boyfriend did i hope everything works out and i hope you falll in love
2006-09-08 15:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by everyoneloveswater12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if I knew the answer I wouldn't have spent so many hours crying for the guy I loved and he didn't gave a damn for me.....What can we do?I am trying to forget him one year.I think I will succeed because in my life these days came up one boy that loves me and wants to be with me and I want to try with him too.Just don't give up, someone who will really love you is waiting for you, he will come.Best wishes.Just try to focus on other things and try to forget him.I know it is hard but think about it-he don't deserve to beg him.
2006-09-08 14:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems like the worst thing to ever happen to you, and it is pretty bad..but trust me someday you'll look back at this and it'll just be a memory.
2006-09-08 14:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by Melisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋