He is in his 60's and has had 2 other heart attacks in the last 2 years.I have been staying at the hospital with her and her family since it has been such a difficult time.My work has a policy of calling a certain voicemail and also the HR voicemail if you are calling out before business hours.I have called both on all three mornings.I feel bad about missing work and I also do not want my co-workers to look down on me for not being there.How should I feel I about this?
2006-09-08 14:16:31 · 17 answers · asked by watershed_22 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
No you shouldnt feel bad, if they are so insensitive to not understand...screw them! You dont go to work to make friends, you go to make money! You have been exactly where you should have been!
2006-09-08 14:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you and the father are very close three days is a bit much. I'd make an effort to speak with your boss and not just leave a message... Explain the situation and keep your boss current on everything that's happening. Generally things of this nature are given some leeway. Unless it is a member of your immediate family (YOUR father, mother, brother, sister, daughter, son, or wife) any time you take isn't/won't/can't be protected under the Family Medical Leave Act.... use this time wisely because God forbid he should pass you'll need to take even more time off and that in combination with the time you've already taken will be an even bigger inconvenience to your employer. I know it sounds heartless but such is the way of the corporate world.
You are in my thoughts. Best wishes to your fiance's father and a speedy recovery.
2006-09-08 21:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by annathespian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel any type of way.
Family comes first and I am pretty sure your co-workers would've done the same if they were in the same situation.
Your hospitality towards your future father-inlaw shows that you will make a great husband and that is essential.
Work comes second and although you missed three days, anyone with a heart or family will understand your decision, accept it, and move on.
2006-09-08 21:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an employer I think it probably wasn't a very good idea to miss work for 3 days for this reason. But it depends on the circumstances. What do you do for work? Did other employees have to do extra work because you weren't there? Did important things not get done? Co-workers can be pretty harsh if they feel someone is not pulling their weight, and calling out for reasons they do not consider legitimate. It sounds like you already know they are going to look down on you, and you are looking for someone to validate your reason for calling out. When you go back to work I would suggest you apologize for being out, thank them for covering for you (if that was the case), don't provide lengthy explanations (it will just sound like you are making excuses), and if you can, do something to help out your co-workers -- offer to cover for them, pick up something extra to do, etc.
2006-09-08 21:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad. Feel good. Many people do not have fiance's OR jobs! You have both. And if you lose one because you could not be in two places at once, you at least chose and kept what was more important to you. Good choice, by the way. Jobs are a dime a dozen. A good fiance only comes along once or twice (maybe three times) in a lifetime!
2006-09-08 21:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by something'srotten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a responsible employer, I accept that my employees have lives outside of their work and that circumstances dictate that at times their private lives will take precendence over their work.
Providing that they keep me informed of the situation and don't take advantage of it, both myself and their co-workers would cover for their absence.
If you feel uncomfortable can I suggest that you offer to take holiday for your absence although I personally would not accept you having to do that.
It would be a nice touch to take a thank you card in when you return to let them know that you appreciate the help they have given you during your difficult time.
I hope your fiance's father makes a full recovery.
Best Wishes
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2006-09-08 21:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Tigers Gal! 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
You are soon to be officially part of the Family, and you have been proving your worth to his Family by your actions for these last three Days. I would not bother to worry about your
co-workers. If they are Human, they will understand.
2006-09-08 21:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sentinel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad, your Fiance needs your support, plus that is going to be your family in the near future... you need to do what you need to do... most companies understand... and unless you are out of work every other week for something here or there calling in sometimes for dumb stuff they will understand... hope he gets better!
2006-09-08 21:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you want to support your fiance in her time of emotional need, but since her father is not considered your "immediate family," I would say that missing one day would be excusable, but not three.
2006-09-09 00:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jody B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your company's policy is about absences from work. Perhaps you're taking unpaid absences? Maybe you can use your vacation days or your sick days to be paid.
Don't feel guilty about it. Family comes first.'
2006-09-08 21:23:34 · answer #11 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋