Two-three weeks ago my best friend told me she's bi. I'm totally cool with that, but there was more. She told me she's attracted to me. I freaked out a little (a lot, all internally though) then calmed down, but I still feel awkward around her. We've been best friends for eight years and I want to keep it that way. What can I do to relax around her?
2006-09-08 14:10:41 · 18 answers · asked by Summer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In time things will calm down, right now though she just needs a friend. Though it was probably akward for you to hear that your friend is attracted to you, it was probably hard for her to tell you. In time you will feel better about it and chances are pretty good that her attraction to you will go away once she has come to better terms internally with what is going on with her. But what is most important hear is that you accept her and let her know that you still want to be friends because you value the friendship.
2006-09-08 14:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you're flattered, but you don't feel the same toward her. You see her as one of your own sister. You shouldn't freaked out. It's one of the greatest compliments that you can get when a girl tells you that you're attractive. But let her down easy and tell her that you'd support her in any way possible. Anyways, to sum it up, you should be honest with her and tell her your friendship with her is worth more than anything.
2006-09-08 21:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you are not interested in that then give her all the support you can .
she is still the same person you have been friends with 8 years nothing has changed except now you know just relax and be yourself .she will get enough flack from all the biggots out there she doesn't need it from her best friend .
good luck too you both hope you stay best friends
2006-09-08 21:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you yourself lack in your "sense-of-self-security; sexual-orientation & idenity".... then i see no-other reason why you should feel any uneasiness or discomfort while in the company of your friend. And as far as her telling you she was/is attracted to you. Well, if there is really a sincere friendship between you both ... then as a friend she would gladly respect your declination toward any such idea of you & she getting involved in that way( bi-sexually).
2006-09-08 21:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you support her and still care about her, but don't feel that way about her. Tell her your friendship means alot to you and hope that you can just continue that. Just let her know exactly how you feel. If she really is your friend then she will understand.
2006-09-08 21:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk 2 her andd make her understand that your not attracted to her in the same way, at least shes bi andd not a total lesbian, u can still talk 2 herr about guys and stuff butt you just need to talk 2 her
2006-09-08 21:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by polygirrrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a bit akward for the first few weeks. you can always talk to her and tell her straight that you just want to remain friends with her.
or you can stay away from her just to send the message across.
sometimes, its best not to fall for a friend.
2006-09-08 21:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by balin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you aren't bi . and that you want to still be her best friend but to not hit on you. if she is a true best friend she will understand. good luck.
2006-09-08 21:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by teddybearleogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her about your feelings. Tell her that you still want to be friends but that's it. After you get it off your chest you'll feel better.
2006-09-08 21:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by noneofyourbizwax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure she understands that yooh want to be friends and thats it
if she takes it the wrong way then shes not a true best friend
2006-09-08 21:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋