My daughter is 3 months old and she's been sleeping through the night on and off for a couple weeks now. (I know, I should be thankful lol...and I am!) But when she is sleeping through the night steadily, I know it will be time to move her to her crib, in her bedroom. I ask if I'm crazy because I DREAD that day! I've gotten so used to her being right beside our bed, in her bassinet...I feel like crying when I even look at her crib. It's like I'm going through separation anxiety...and her room is not that far away! Is this normal? And how do I deal with it?? I know she's got to start sleeping in her crib sometime...is it ME that's the "big baby" instead of her?? LOL Thanks...
2006-09-08 14:04:38 · 47 answers · asked by peachy78 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Ok!! First of all, these feelings are completely normal. My son was born two months premature and didn't come home until he was 2 months old. He was in the bassinette by my bed until he was almost 6 months old. It was VERY hard to move him to his crib. We have a very small house and his room is right next to ours but I still had the monitor by my ear cranked as loud as it would go. I could hear him fart! LOL I still got up several times in the night to check on him.
Here's the thing...if you don't move your daughter into her crib at an appropriate age (my pediatrician said 6 months) you may have trouble ever moving her. You don't want your child sleeping with you when they are 2-3-4 years old. No matter what anybody tells you, it is not healthy for your child. Your pediatrician will reinforce this opinion.
If you must, make a bed on the floor of your child's room for the first couple nights. She won't know you are there and it may help your piece of mind. Good luck!
P.S. My son is now a year and sleeps perfectly in his own room!
2006-09-08 14:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy but here is some well earned advice. Get her in the crib and have a baby monitor. She is old enough to sleep in another room and if you don't get her out of your room soon, she'll be in bed with you until she's three and it will be a VERY difficult task to break that. I know this from experience. And i'm a big baby too, I still check on my now 5 year old at least four times a night if not more. LOL Be strong for her and know that this is what's best for her.
2006-09-08 14:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal. I wish I would hear of more Moms feeling that way instead of trying to get their child away from them as soon as possible. You have just been through 9 months of a life inside of you. Having a baby is a major thing. You should feel some sort of separation anxiety. Your body has nourished a life and now your body is not able to do that on its own. So with the baby as close to you as she can be, you feel some kind of comfort. But you are right, she Will need to move to the crib. The sooner the better. If you wait too long it will be harder on both of you to put her in a separate room. Be strong Mom, you have a lot more hard decisions ahead of you but sometimes the best ones for her will be the hardest ones for you. :)
2006-09-08 14:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by GillSev 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to move her into a crib in her own bedroom if you don't want. My baby still sleeps in our room (in her own twin size bed, on the floor; we never did cribs at all) and it's just fine. Nor do I expect to have any problems moving her into her own bedroom when the time comes (she still doesn't *quite* sleep through the night).
If you're worried about having space with your husband, you can do what we did- turn the "baby's room" (since she's not using it) into a grownup play room, with a queen size air mattress! It doubles as a guest room for visitors. :)
She's so young still, there's no reason to rush this. Just wait until both of you are ready.
2006-09-09 04:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by kalirush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is you the big baby. But how can I criticize you for wanting to be with your baby. That is normal. You are a good Mommy and know that the baby needs to be changed to the crib, why don't you move the crib to your room until you feel secure that she will be all right. I know many people criticize me when I did it, but since she was my baby I did not care. Mothers sometimes have a sixth sense, so don't leave her alone yet, do it when you feel it.
OK? Don't listen to others about letting your baby cry and things like that, your baby is your responsibility so protect her as much as you can. God bless.
2006-09-08 14:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel that they. When its your first baby you don't want to move them out of your room into thier own room. You could let her sleep in her crib during the day in her room to begin with, After a few weeks of doing that . Just try and let her sleep in her crib in her room. I know that it is going to be hard. But it will give you some one on one time with your other half.
2006-09-08 14:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by baby69744 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally normal! the sooner you get her to her room though the better you are. it's better that you are having this anxiety instead of her, and if you wait too much longer it will be her that won't sleep in her room! i don't see why you can't "ween" yourself off her sleeping in there, maybe start off with her naps she's in the crib and then maybe have her in the crib till you ready for bed, my guess is you might be dead tired and don't want to move her. besides i bet as soon as your angel is in the crib you and the hubby will love the alone time!
2006-09-08 14:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy at all! I am going through the same thing right now, except it's worse with me. I made the mistake of letting sleep in my bed since I breastfeed her. Well, now it is almost a year later and she still is in my bed, I also still breastfeed though. We bought her a crib and a full size bed, but I am just nervous about putting her in there because I've grown so use to looking at her at night when she sleeps.
2006-09-08 14:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by ab07032002 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was the same way.. I moved mine into the crib and still in my bedroom LOL.. and did til they were old enough to transition next door together... meaning I had a toddler bed and a crib in my bedroom at the same time LOL...
2006-09-08 15:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad i was the same way. just be lucky that she sleeps in her own bed that is a hard habbit to break. if you are worried about it now just put the crib in your room thats what i did. now my son is a15 months old and has been in his room since he was 10 months. it just shows that you love and care for your child because you are worried. it will pass and you will feel ready to let her be in her room. It just takes time she is new and you are worried about every thing at that age. well i was any way. well i am cause now i have a baby girl who is 1 month.
2006-09-08 15:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by craig k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋