My husband and I have been married for 2 years now. At the beginning of our marriage he said that he doesn't like watching porn. That he doesn't need it. I am pregnant right now and I noticed a couple months ago that he has been watching porn for quiet a while. I confronted him about it, he promised me that he will not do it anymore. I felt like since I'm pregnant I'm not attractive to him anymore. And we did have less sex. And a couple days ago I found out that he had porn hidden on the computer where I usually wouldnt check. I'm about to give birth in a couple weeks. And now I dont even feel like having any sex with him, and let him suffer. I see it as a problem, that he is hiding it from me. It really hurts me bad to know that he prefers to look at other women if he has one at home. And it effects me on how I see him as a partner. Please give me some advice of what I should do. Or are all men like that, and I should just take it the way it is???
2006-09-08 14:00:16 · 61 answers · asked by TaTaTa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
me and my girl watch porn together all the time !!
2006-09-08 14:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Big R 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-27 11:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been married to my husband for 4 years he doesn't like porno he thinks it's nasty and so do I but my ex bf watched it all the time and he never did stop I would put a parental lock on the damn computer I'd fix his clock I wouldn't care if he would get upset about the lock or not he is a married man he has a woman he shouldn't have to watch porn to get a rise he has you and that should be enough when I was pregnant with my kids my husband still made love to me and found me to be beautiful he still didn't watch porn just because a woman is pregnant doesn't give a man a right to watch porn a woman being pregnant shouldn't change how a man feels about her my husband thinks pregnancy is a beautiful thing it would upset me too if that was my husband but like I said don't let it get to you your still beautiful if not more beautiful your going to have a baby and nothing can be more beautiful then that about a woman just put a lock on the computer I know I would
2006-09-08 14:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men watch porn because they have an incredibly high need for sex. It is almost impossible for any woman to keep up with all of the sex that most men want, especially when she is pregnant. It is not that you are less attractive but that you are more tired than usual. If you asked him he would probably tell you (truthfully) that he is putting you into tht fantasy. He isn't imagining someone else he is just imagining something different. The truth is that many men are addicted to porn/sex and it has very little to do with how attracted or not attracted they are to their spouse.
2006-09-08 14:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by sexyheater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are into porn b/c they are visual beings. Meaning that they are aroused by seeing something. Sometimes they watch it to help them if they are going to masturbate. Maybe he feels you won't want to or can't have sex being pregnant. He could not be attracted to you being pregnant but usually if they are good sincere guys they actually like the way women look when they are pregnant. It depends on the guy. If you really have an issue tell him that it makes you very uncomfortable and share your worries, if he doesn't listen or isn't simpathetic then maybe you should get marriage counseling and see if someone can help. Good luck
2006-09-08 14:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't watch porn if my girlfriend wasn't okay with it. Plus i'm in a long distance relationship, so it's a little different. He is acting a little bit jerky, but you might not be performing as well as he likes. Ask him what you can do to make him not want to watch porn anymore. Telling him he can't will only make him frustrated.
2016-03-17 10:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there ... my hubby watches porn all the time looking for new positions to try and experiment with. He says that it's not because I'm not attractive to him, he just wants to find new ways to please me. And as far as being pregnant .. pregnancy brings out the true beauty of a woman, I've had 2 children. Don't let anyone tell you that you are unattractive while you're pregnant ... they don't understand the true meaning of beauty if they feel this way. Good luck and congrats!!
2006-09-08 14:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.K. I ran into a simalar problem with my hubby in the past. Explination, guys just jerk off. If they are bored, they jerk off. Its nothing personnal against the spouse, and it is not that they prefur the porn to their spouse, its just helps them get their quicker. Try not to get mad about it, and tell him that looking at it is ok, but when he hides it from you, it makes it seem like it is wrong, it hurts you, and he doesn't have to hide it. I still don't understand it, and sometimes, it stillhurts because I feel like its me, but its not. It really is a guy thing, and it is not at all that you are not enough. One thing I did, that my man loved, is after I had the baby, andI was feeling sexy again, and my body was good again, I took some pictures, Non nude, just some sexy underwear pis, and sent them to him, via e-mail. He loved them, and I feel better that in the mix of his picture collection, he has me there as well. Don't worry, you are the only woman he wants and needs, porn is like a vibrator for men.
2006-09-08 14:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you know he's been watching it and you want to watch it with him - whether you do or not.
I assume you don't approve ... why?
- Religious/moral objections?
- You find it offensive?
- You find it threatening?
Which of these reasons is worth alienating your husband? Believe it or not, you needn't be threatened by it ... has your sex life been good to this point? Do you think it would be better if he weren't watching porn? He's going to watch it if he wants to - and will hide it from you as long as you make your objections known. If you want him to stop, give him every reason to not need to watch it - and cutting him off is NOT the right answer.
2006-09-08 14:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by DidacticRogue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Loxe, he hides it because he knows you disapprove. I think you should just not be so uptight about it and let him do it, it's harmless. I've never met a man that doesn't watch porn from time to time, some more than others. Men are very sexual beings and if that is the worse thing he does (as opposed to having an affair) then you are lucky.
2006-09-08 14:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by deepadot 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you offer to watch a movie with him then he won't hide it from you anymore. If it is a really big deal then you should tell him that you are more hurt than mad, that could get through to him.
Him looking at porn has nothing to do with how he sees you. Guys are visual creatures. I wouldn't let it bother you, just tell him that you don't like it in your home.
2006-09-08 14:03:33 · answer #11 · answered by eyesinthedarkness 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋