I'm in an odd situation. My husband and my sister's EX husband are family. The EX husband has remarried and his wife doesn't like me because I'm her new husband's EX sister in law. Sound confusing? Well, anyway....My husband and I are invited to the wedding reception and he wants to go because all of his family will be there. I have no problem with my sis's EX husband...it's his new wife that I have the probelm with. She is always giving me the cold shoulder. I know if I go I will be looked at by her family as "HER new husband's "EX-sister-in-law" Should I go to support my husband or let him go by himself and not let her ruin my Saturday by snubbing me when I show up? Help
2006-09-08 13:43:14 · 21 answers · asked by sugarbud 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go for your husband and your brother-in-law. It's not like you are the Ex wife. She will have enough to do with all the other guests. Be gracious and polite to everyone, try not to badmouth anyone and she may grow to accept that you are and will continue to be a member of the family. If she doesn't it's her problem, not yours.
2006-09-08 13:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both were invited. Don't sink to her level. Go, be seen, and have a great time with ur husband and the family. Don't worry about what others "might" be thinking. You can't control that. Just focus on ur family. Make an appearance and leave with ur husband after a brief visit if u feel more comfortable. She can't snub u if u don't approach her and if she does then smile while biting the inside of ur cheek and say nothing but hello.
Have some cake!
2006-09-08 13:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go if my husband wanted me to, but if he doesn't care one way or another then it is up to you. Personally, I wouldn't let her giving me the cold shoulder scare me off. The only possible reason for her behavior is that she doesn't like being reminded that he has an x-wife by you. Sorry, but she knew this when she married him and what the heck do you have to do with her happiness anyway? She sounds insecure and jealous and I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of having control over you this way. You would be the mature adult in this situation and hold your head high.
2006-09-08 13:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is the one that you have to look at everyday, not this new sister in law. Go as support for your husband. Show him how much you care by going.
2006-09-08 13:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. It would be odd if your husband came without you and would be even more awkward if you both did'nt attend.
I am assuming that you do not know why she is giving you cold shoulder. None the less don't make her problem yours. Enjoy the family around you. Make good memory's and not regretful ones.
Be at peace with yourself and then you could be at peace others.
2006-09-08 14:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go...It's not your sister and her husband didn't have a successful marriage. If anything you shouldn't like her because she is your sisters replacement. If she gives you the cold shoulder, don't worry about it because you did nothing wrong. go have a good time with your husband and his family.
2006-09-08 13:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ella41590 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since it's yr husbands relative n he n family will all b there - GO ! U will have several family members to b with even if u feel snubbed by her. If u show up, she might even change her attitude towards u in future? make it s pleasant n happy s possible for all present
2006-09-08 13:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support your husband and forget the problems you are having . show your husband you are the better person by going, be nice and don't let the animosity ruin your husbands fun time.
2006-09-08 13:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to the reception and forget about her.
You're allowing her to have too much power over you by making it an issue.
Look fabulous , dance with your husband, and smile right at her. You'll have a great time!
2006-09-08 13:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope - you may't do this. no longer except you want people to shop in ideas you and your wedding ceremony as tacky and impolite. i know you're saying that's a double wedding ceremony, so that you've already got various people, and may't have sufficient money many more desirable. Then do not envite the 'many more desirable' in any respect. %. and choose intently. set up an "A", "B" and "C" record, position the must have people contained in the "A" record, the might want to be fantastic for them to be there contained in the "B", and the 'in the adventure that they practice, great, if no longer, oh properly' people contained in the "C" record. initiate sending the "A" record invitations out great early. when they have answered, reevaluate the "B" and "C" record. deliver out the "B" record invitations, and do an analogous even as they come again. finally - once you've room - deliver out the "C" record invitations. basically make sure you time table the sending of the invitations so as that the "C" record people do not keep in mind that they are on the "C" record. wish this allows!!! sturdy success, and Congratulations!!!
2016-11-25 21:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋