Should gay people go back into the closet?

Question

Don't get me wrong, I don't hate gay people. However I do hate the ones who try to act "butch"(women) or "femenine"(men). I don't find it natraul when a man or woman purposely changes his/her voice. I have recently learned that some gay people turn gay because they want to rebel or be different. Because being gay is now out in the open, more people become homosexual because they think it is okay. What is your opinion on this subject?

I once saw a guy sneak up on a gay guy who talked "femenine" and when he scared the guy he screamed in a manly voice, and even talked in a normal voice until he heard himself talk.

And gay people can't just be gay, they have to let the whole world know and shove it in everybodys face. Take the show Will & Grace for example, I watched a couple episodes, and everything they said had to do with being gay. I rarely heard a normal conversation or joke.

Nowhere in my question am I bashing gays. I am simply stating an opinion. And for your information I am related to quite a few(by marriage) homosexuals. And who in the world said I was a Christian. I don't have to be a Christian to dislike the lifestyles of gay people. And my cousins husband used to be gay. So what does that mean? If he was born gay, then turned straight, is he just confused or is being gay just unnatural.

Answer 1

I do not think they should be ashamed to be gay if they are, although it is a sin. However, I feel like they should leave their sexual identity in the bedroom where it belongs. You can be gay without being overly dramatic about it. And for it being a sin, I do not say that like I have lived a sinless life. We all will have to answer for our own, I just wonder how they will try to justify it.

Answer 2

I know why you asked the question the way you did, the way I see it, it has nothing to do with coming out of the closet, but that is the term they have used for their unnatural lifestyles, and now they say that everyone needs to understand that they were born with this tendency to be with the same sex. If it was so natural, something they were naturally born with, that term would have never been said, because that would not have been something to hide, and clearly they were hiding behind shamefulness. To take on the characteristics of the opposite sex, they are trying to show that its natural, like their voices, hairstyles, actions, and clothing, clearly, again, is just an act to try to convince people they were born that way. To further their agenda on convincing people it's natural, television has taken it a step further, on movies, sitcoms, and commercials. People have to step up and say no to it, let people know that it is not natural to want someone of the same sex. It is anger I see more of for not accepting "gay" people, they can get angry all they want to, I don't have to accept their behavior, and no one should be fooled by their poor attempts to act like it's not their own sinful ways.

Answer 3

I like your name, Dr. Stupid!

I don't think it's always about rebellion. I think a lot of people have hormonal issues playing into their urges. That might sound messed up, but think how many bi or lesbian women you know who have something like PCOS or stress from birth which raises a testosterone level significantly. Maybe some of these people really at times FEEL like the opposite sex. And being treated by their peer groups as if they are not feminine (or masculine) enough will only reinforce the feeling. THEN after considering this I'll consider rebellion. :-) Rebellion does probably play some part in it.

There was a gay man's online journal that I followed for a while. (He's a great writer, very funny and emotional!) Anyway. I hate to say it, but I didn't think he was "really" all the way gay. And it's not just wishful thinking, LOL, but there were a lot of things he said that reminded me of things someone I know who shall remain nameless used to say and do. I really think his relationships with his parents, his emotional tendencies, and culture played a part in his choice to become gay. Never mind that he had a twin who did the same thing. I think it was 1 part feelings and culture's acceptance of males having these openly; 1 part Dad and Mom, 1 part rebellion.

I do believe some people are born with the tendency, but that they can and probably should try to overcome it or not live it, if they want happier lives. HOWEVER, saying that, I don't know someone who keeps in the closet and is happy. They are always miserable. :(

I don't hate gay people either and will always stand up for a gay person that's not just trying to show it off just for kicks.

Answer 4

There is a big difference in "closet" and being what you describe.
Some people DO act affected, that cannot be denied...but that has nothing to do with closets. Am I uncomfortable around a screaming queen (is that what you really want to know?) then the answer is really ... no.. Others actions have no reflection on me. But I will tell you that there are times when the screamers will have me rolling around on the floor laughing so damned hard...let's face it, some of these guys can be a riot...I just do not want a steady diet of it. Good luck

Answer 5

well, I think your name says it all. how many gays/lesbians do you actually know? very few act like the stereotypes you mention. no one "turns" gay...you are born that way. some may be in denial (because of society, being raised by homophobes), and come out later in life...but they didn't "turn" gay. that's another ridiculous thing homophobes/naive/ignorant people believe. and what you watch on TV is also, over the top stereotypes. while I did watch Will & Grace and enjoyed it, I really don't know many people that ever resembled anyone on that show. they are exaggerated stereotypes.
I also find it strange how someone says "I don't hate gay people..." ...and then that followed by a "but" or "however" and then something stereotypical, or hateful, or "it says it's a sin in the Bible" crap.
people have become more accepting, that's true. it makes it easier for a lot of us to be out.

Answer 6

First off, I know more straight women who are "butch" in dress and manner than most lesbians that I know. Gender identy issues is distinctly separate from homosexuality -- not that it's okay to discriminate against them either.

No one can "turn gay" by making a decision. Sexuality is not an intellectual thing. Either you are who you are or you are pretending to be something you are not - that's the only choice.

No, gays and lesbians should not go back in to the closet. More should come out.

Answer 7

I hate gays , at least the ones that have come out of the closet. I work with a lot of people , and the vast majority of the gays are disgusting , vulgar trash . They seem to go out of their way to show everybody they are who they are and proud of it.I see a lot of decent people that might be gay , but they dont announce it or act it. So I dont know or care if they are gay or not.

Answer 8

I'm just curious why most people point the finger at Christian people when it comes to this subject. It's not only Christians who are against homosexuality.

Answer 9

You have recently "learned" nothing, that little bit of information you've heard is called a stereotype and usually perpetuated by anti-gay Christians. Nothing is further from the truth.
People don't "Become" homosexual, they are born that way. The only difference is that more are open and don't hide as they did in the past.

Answer 10

god no it took me years to come out and i'm very happy i did... i dont make my voice deeper my voice just is like that i inherited it i didnt change it. i dont act "butch" ive always been a "tomboy" and i'm not about to change that cuz i'm gay... who the hell turns gay you're born that way. keep it in the bedroom..being gay is about more than sex. and how is asking for equal rights flaunting it?