The assistant principal of my school is incharge of enforcing the dress code. She doesn't like me. Yesterday I wore a skirt. She pulls me to the side of the hall and asks me to put my hands down (i.e. the fingertip check.) The rule is skirts must come to the tips of your fingers. So I put my hands down and their is at least 3 inches left of skirt. She said put them down further, i did. 1 1/2 inches left. "Put them down further." I reach to the bottum of my skirt. "clearly this is just making it. don't wear it again."
Even if it had just come to my fingertips, that's the rule. Are they really allowed to say the rule doesn't count? Later the same day I saw another girl who's skirt was about 5 inches shorter than mine. This girl was not caught because her dad is a lawyer. I'm a straight A student and total prep. She also yelled at me many times last year. Does she have a reason to pick on me? I don't understand.
2006-09-08 13:36:14 · 12 answers · asked by hodagwriter 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Well, you know ... it's possible that she is indeed singling you out. It's also possible that she is not really singling you out, but giving other students priveledged treatment based on some reason or another. Nonetheless, unless you are actually breaking a rule, she really has nothing she can do to you. On the other hand, all law enforcers like to exercise their power once in a while, and she may just be randomly picking a time to do it.
One way or another, if it happens again, you could try and get in HER head a little. Maybe she's envious of you. Maybe she's angry at you for some reason. Maybe you remind her of herself, and something she's ashamed of. Maybe you remind her of the girl in school who used always get what she wanted, and had all the cute boyfriends and all the pretty clothes. You can say something back to her to bring her back down to earth. You might go for someting like "You know, mrs. so n so, you've mentioned this to me before and it hurts my feelings. It makes me feel like you're singling me out for some reason. It makes me feel like you think I'm a bad student, or am of an unsavory or unsophisticated class. I'm not REALLY breaking any rules here, so are you trying to imply that I'm trashy, because I take offense to that?"
I see three possible outcomes:
A: She says somthing like "No I'm not implying anything. You're breaking a rule, or comming close to it, and I'm giving you a warning." In which case you're in the same situation, and it was worth a try.
B: You catch her off guard and she says someting like "Oh, I'm sorry. No I dont' feel that way at all. Nevermind. I'm sorry." In which case you win, and never have to worry about it.
C: You catch her off guard, and she gets angry and says something like "Oh yeah! Well I wouldn't think you're trashy if you didn't dress like this." In which case you REALLY win, cuz she just called you trash, and you can file a complaint about her and maybe get her in trouble.
Good luck, and stay stylish.
2006-09-08 13:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by PinkFlow 1 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Just follow the dress code and don't complain about it. The assistant principal will not see every single student in the school and can only enforce the rules with the ones she sees. Dress codes are in place to emphasize learning at the school. I know students see it as more of a hassle than anything--a way we stifle individuality. The reason we make policies like this are many: 1. My school has a tucked-in policy for t-shirts for safety reasons (to make it more difficult to conceal weapons--beltline must be visible); 2. Clothing should not be too revealing as this distracts other students (primarily boys); 3. Clothing should contain appropriate content (no drugs/alcohol/gang symbols/etc.).
If I had my way, all schools would require uniforms.
2006-09-08 13:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by bunstihl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Assuming there's not more to the story, she's just on a power trip. Play the game and graduate. Don't worry yourself with petty people and their petty issues. Remember that dress code enforcement is more of a way to keep students busy "fighting the good fight" for the wrong battle. If you don't get past the dress code, you won't even realize all the other ways the administration is keeping you down.
2006-09-08 17:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Am I the only person in the world that thinks that MAYBE you MIGHT have gotten on her bad list for a legitimate reason at some point in the past?
Yes, now she might be going to an extreme, but are you SURE you haven't been a major blip on her radar before?
As for those of you who are recommeding lawyers and all of that crap, YOU are what's wrong with the education system today. YOU are why Little Bobby and Little Suzie can't learn--because your kids are causing trouble in class, and no matter what Bobby and Suzie's parents do to help their kids succeed, they can't get your misbehaving kids OUT of class, and THEIR tax money is being wasted taking your sorry-good-for-nothings-with-no-parenting-skills-or-morals to court!
UGH, back to the REAL issue.
If she really TRULY is picking on you, ask your parents about transferring or talk to them heart-to-heart about what you and they can do, OR worst case scenario, just tough it out. "That which does not kill you makes you stronger," and when you become of the boss of someone some day, you'll know how to be the kind of leader you should be. Keep up your good grades, and you can make a success of your life--that in itself will be spite to her if she's really hell-bent on making your life miserable.
Good luck.
2006-09-08 15:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Wander Woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start taking pictures of your skirts on you with your hands down to measure the length. Tell her you're documenting the harrassment and speaking to your family attorney. (On the flip side, I remember stretching the dress code requirements when I was in high school - it is amazing how "short" your arms can become at Catholic school).
2006-09-08 13:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by Erin D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rule number one: you go to the school, you follow the rules.
She might be unfair, but to quote, "the world isn't fair".
If you really feel that you've been violated, though, talk to your principal.
2006-09-10 09:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by lexie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File a complaint. Seriously.
2006-09-08 17:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by starswilldance 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That does sound really unfair. Perhaps she doesn't like you for a really stupid reason. Or she may be jealous of you. I would just try to avoid her as much as possible.
2006-09-08 13:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by wannaknow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she is just trying to inforce th erules and schools are afraind of lawers that are aganst them so no bu t you need to under stand that there just trying to enforce the rules
2006-09-08 13:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
no. she obviously hates you. Best thing to do is have surgery to shorten your arm length by seven inches
2006-09-08 14:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by wheels 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋