what would you do if your boyfriend might have a baby by his ex-girlfriend?

Question

well we been dating for only 5 months and the babby is 2 months old and he never told me i fought out from our best friend when he broke up with me and it was because of the baby. but he dont think its his because the girl cheated on him with 2 boys.

Answer 1

get over it. Either you like him or you don't. My husband has a baby with another lady, but There are alot of "baby's mama" problems. So if you like this guy deal with it. If not get out now.

Answer 2

1. LEAVE HIM - if he's that much of a horrible father that he's not helping her with that baby, then he definitely won't be a good father in the future. To any other child. A man who can turn his back on his child, is not a man at all.

2. LEAVE HIM. She wouldn't have allowed the unsafe sex, if he didn't make her think that they would have a future together. Men say things, so as to not have to use a condom. And if she's pregnant, then he definitely woo'd his way into it.

3. LEAVE HIM. He belongs to her, as God chose them to have a child together. Remember, God makes children for a reason. And they now have a tie. A link - for the rest of their lives. They will always be in each other's life, no matter what.

4. LEAVE HIM. That baby is going to need a father. He needs to start acting like one. And - you need to think of the meaning of being a father. A father is one who provides for his child. Not just measly child support either. A GOOD father provides a home, a place to sleep, clothes, and love. A child is best brought up in a home where he receives love from both parents, every day.

Don't try to kid yourself if you're thinking maybe she's lying, that'll come out sooner than later. If she's pointing fingers at your now-boyfriend, that he is the father, then he most likely is. When a woman is pregnant, she needs love and support, someone to help her, someone to take care of her. It is hard work to be pregnant for that long, not to mention after the baby is born! And she would want no one but the father of that baby.

Answer 3

Has he given you any reason to no longer have faith him in the previous? in the event that they have been jointly in the previous you, broke up, and now he's with you and says that he needs to proceed being with you whether the child is his - and you're waiting to take on the duty of being an significant parent in his daughter or son's life (in case your relationship with him is that severe) - then you certainly could have faith in him and be there for him by this. basically because of the fact his ex says she needs to come again including him does no longer mean he feels an identical way. He won't have faith a broken kinfolk is sweet, yet from what you're asserting, he seems to comprehend that he and his ex weren't meant to be and that he's discovered somebody specific in you. a splash one, in spite of everything, does not make a relationship. He can nevertheless be a great father with out being with the child's mom, it happens further and extra daily, and you could in turn be a great lady chum and individual in that youngster's life in case you and your boyfriend are fairly committed to a minimum of one yet another.

Answer 4

I am in the same situation. And I have to tell you....its a lot of drama that you have to be mature enough to deal with....on both ends! My ex's girlfriend is getting involved and is making it worse. If you stay with this guy, be prepared for a lot of frustrations and complications but always remember that it does NOT involve you and you have no rights to opinions regarding the situation.. It only makes matters worse when there is a third party butting in. Im not trying to sound harsh but its reality.

Answer 5

Two fold.....

1) Do you have a problem with it the fact there is a child already?
2) Is he open about this and acting responsibly regarding this child of his?

For 1) there is no right or wrong, it will be your choice. For 2) it will be a good indcator for your future.

Answer 6

Well first of all, did he cheat? This could be very hard on you because it is not your own child- AND it's with his ex-girlfriend. He will have to be connected with this girl for at least 18 years of his life because of this child. Are you emotionally stable to handle a situation like this? If you're strong by spirit and you truly love this man- Stand by him. He ,ay need you as much as you need him. If you two aren't that close or if he treats you badly- run. There are far more fish in the sea- but if you like this one, keep it. This is your decision but think long and hard about the consequences in the long run. I wish you the best of luck!!!

Answer 7

Well The Question is did he cheat...?....if you think u can handle it, then stay with him, but the fact of the matter is that the baby's mother will be in ur business for the 18 yrs, and she'll never leave u or ur b/f alone!...Good luck...

Answer 8

Well , you were with him for 5mths and the baby is 2mths old , do the math , she was pregnant WAY before you got into the picture. Either be with him & baby , or move on . And for him he needs to take a dna test or go on maury to find out if its his before it gets too late

Answer 9

I would guess that either paternity is questioned or the girl is still pregnant...I have a baby by my ex and my husband is with me and treats my little boy like his own.
The question is can you deal with it?
If not, leave now, before you get to a know a child and have to hurt them.

Answer 10

I would talk with him and find out if he is the father to this baby...and if he is he must take responsibility for the child. He has to be the man that he thinks he is and take care of his baby, father it, love it, be there for it....forget him, and let him become the father that he is, (IF he is) this needs to be talked out in a adult way, and take the proper steps to take care of the baby.

Answer 11

Well, if he already broke up with you, then you should move on. This is a problem between your ex-boyfriend and that girl. Don't stress out yourself when the problem is not yours.