I made remarks to my girl which gave her an indication that i didnt trust her, but i have since apologised but she wont forgive me and its been 3 days! i have tried calling and texting but she wont reply..does it mean its over?
2006-09-08 13:11:47 · 31 answers · asked by frankie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it means she's punishing you so you'll never say such a thing again.
turn the tables. stop calling and running after her.
2006-09-08 13:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Were you being honest with her when you said you didn't trust her, or was it something more subtle? I mean, did you say "You know, I just don't trust you." Or something more gentle such as "I wish I could find a way to trust people more easily..." Men have a big issue with trust. It is the basis of everything. In fact, so do women. Trust is the correct basis of all relationships. Try to get it back again once it's been tampered with. It's almost like the more you say or do the more you look bad for it all. I agree completely with those people here who are telling you not to pursue or explain or text or chase or whatever. Just be quiet for a bit until some of it quiets down a little and you get your bearings. What is worse? Stating you don't trust someone and being truthful or not being able to forgive someone when he tells you the truth about being sorry for what he said. Would you be apologizing for the way you said it, or for the fact that you really do not trust her? How is she treating you? I believe you should give some serious thought as to how far you want to go with this. If it gets too off-center with her, step back. She may realize that forgiveness is appropriate because of your good character and the kind of person you truly are inside and start treating you in a civil manner once again. If someone told me however bluntly he did not trust me I would not withdraw. I know that I am absolutely trustworthy as a man. It is my character. I would sit down with that person and we would talk it out right then and there, and believe me, I would listen and listen until he had said everything about why he felt that way about me. That would be more important to me than interrupting him in order to defend myself. Well, I hope some of this will be helpful to you. The idea is not to sell yourself down the river while you are trying to enlighten a friend about your true values. If she wants to drag this thing out no matter what you do, then step back and give some serious thought about how much fuel you wish to add to it, considering where it is not going... Sent to you with Faith in a positive outcome to it, I am Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)
2006-09-08 13:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling and texting her. Wait for her to call u. If she doesn't then cut her off. Don't be a doormat. Sometimes the truth hurts and it looks like she used it as a justification to lose contact with u. Go out. Be seen and if she still has her funnies on in a week then move on and move up. Sometimes this sort of thing can be a blessing in disquise. She is being inconsiderate and cruel. Does this sound like someone u want holding ur heart? If she has broken up with u then she should show u a lil common courtesy and respect and just tell u. Find someone else or take time for urself.
2006-09-08 13:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its doesn't necessarily mean its over, its probably more wounded pride with her. Make the effort to go and talk to her face to face, she might appreciate that a bit better then sending texts and calling her and explain maybe why you said what you said.
Although you haven't said what it actually was, and now I'm only guessing, maybe the comments you made, was more something to do with an insecurity you have maybe to do with the relationship, or something that she feels insecure about. However, wither any of the comments you made were rational or irrational, they have nonetheless upset your girlfriend, now its time to go and speak to her and explain why you said what you said, and maybe this will help clear the air between you and you both may be able to move the relationship forward and with a better understanding of each other.
Good luck
2006-09-08 14:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just apologised with no explanation as to why you questioned her trust, she probably still thinks you don't trust her, and that you simply want to put the argument to bed.
You need to explain exactly WHY you questioned her trust, whether it was because you were feeling vulnerable, embarrassed or just simply angry at a situation. If you really do trust her and you explain why you acted the way you did, she should believe you. If you don't trust her and you're trying to just sweep this under the carpet, she'll see right through you I'm afraid.
2006-09-08 13:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust, once doubted by one partner, can cause irreparable damage.
All relationships depend on trust, if you doubted her once, you will again. It's a sign of your own immaturity!
I was mistrusted when not guilty, when aged seventeen, I forgave, then married him... and then spent twelve years as a the 'possession' of... and punchbag of... the most jealous and mistrusting person.
I forgive too easily and should have walked away... but didn't and when we married, women were still the property of their husbands in the UK in the sixties...
She is not at fault here, YOU are mate.
Grow up and learn about your part in a relationship... and when you have, maybe she will see it in you and TRUST you, to trust her again!
I wouldn't!
People who doubt, accuse and go out on the verbal attack, have serious problems of their own that need addressing, not the accused!
2006-09-08 13:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's just really hurt with what you say. if you think it's over, you should make it clear with her, invite her or leave her a message, and tell her you're also hurt with what you did., and youre not happy with the way you acted (f you really are). then ask her out to talk about it, if she still cannot forgive you, maybe you can go separate ways, coz in a relationship, it's hard if you have issues.
2006-09-08 13:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some time to calm down. even though it's been 3 days, some girls take a few days to forgive a guy that has said something that hurt them. don't give up hope on her too soon.
good luck.
2006-09-08 13:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by PixiFairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could mean maybe she feels guilty for something?? but if you really care about her you could try sending her some flowers"not roses" or just put them at her front door with a I'm sorry note, and then leave it up to her to call you.......Good luck
2006-09-08 13:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by fetter_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whatever you said to her must have really pi ssed her off, either that or she has been waiting for an excuse to dump your ****. Stop calling her. if she wants you, she'll come back. If not then move on
2006-09-08 20:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by Liane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i think u should just cool it off, meaning stop calling her. Uve made ur feelings clear, now the ball is in her court.
2006-09-08 13:17:17 · answer #11 · answered by ♀ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋