I was married for 21 years. Married when I was pregnant and very young. We had 3 children together. He was abusive to me and our children. I was able to get away with my kids and we are now safe. He's out of our lives because he is in jail. He's due to get released in the next 2 years. I still live in fear of him emotionally and when he's released it will be physically. I have had a couple other relationships since my divorce (good guys) but, I always have a problem with trusting and letting down my guard to my heart. My children are now grown and are doing good but, I can't seem to get over the abuse. I've been in therapy for a long time and nothing seems to work. I've come a long way but, I'm still afraid of getting hurt again. What can I do to eventually get over my past. I want a happy relationship too like so many married couples that I see. I'm a good person and I think I have so much to offer. Help! Thanks!
2006-09-08 12:42:30 · 5 answers · asked by cee cee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One day you will let your guard down a little more than now and things will start to happen. You went through alot.
2006-09-08 12:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said, "I want a happy relationship..like so many married couples that I see." Well you must live in a different world than the rest of us! So many married couples are happy? Read through some of these posts and you will see how many unhappily married people are out there! Just because there isn't someone special in your life doesn't mean you haven't made forward progress. Don't beat yourself up on the trust issue. Trusting someone again, after what you went through, would be difficult, if not impossible. Believe in yourself-----that you are a good person and be the best person you can. Don't worry about how "happy" so many married people seem to be. That's the exterior. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
2006-09-08 20:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men are NOT like your husband........You have to learn to trust again...I was in an abusive relationship a long time ago and I got out of it......
You just need to be able to trust again and try to let your guard down or else you will never be happy....As for your ex he still has two years and alot can happen in tow years....Find yourself a guy and get on with your life..Because you are still letting your ex control you ..Take charge of your own life and move on
2006-09-08 21:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGIVE YOURSELF, It's hard but possible. I'll love you until you can love yourself. Just a women who knows this frist hand. Been there and done and worn that T- Shirt. I'm just glad to day that I have a higher power that I know NoOne can do me like Jesus.
Build a bridge and get over it!
2006-09-08 19:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to change locations and therapist!
2006-09-08 19:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋