therapist. WE work 50 mi. from home. He knew I do not drive in snow and on ice & convinced me to take the job and promised to drive at those times- about10-15 days in winter. After snow, it stays icy for several days. He was offered a less stressful job somewhere else/ Morale is low where we work. I am an excellent teacher, but jobs in this area are scarce-have been trying consistently for 3 yrs. He is afraid to leave me in our place of work where the morale is low- and the long commute esp. because he promised when i took job that he;d drive in bad weather. i just can't take off all those days- noone from work lives near us- no public transport either. We split driving otherwise.
. I feel guilty- honestly, I am afraid of driving
in bad weather. Would I be awful to just express my thanks and tell
I for appreciate him staying? We love each other very much, but I feel guilty.
2006-09-08 12:25:04 · 8 answers · asked by mollie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a discussion you should be having with him.
Feel him out - make sure he won't resent your indirectly denying him the opportunity to take a better job.
How important is his support at your job?
How important is the time the two of you spend together during your commute?
How difficult would it be (emotionally) for you to overcome your fear of winter driving?
Just make sure the two of you are in agreement and have a full understanding of each other's thoughts and concerns. Then you can make your JOINT decision with neither of you carrying any guilt forward.
Blessings on you and your decision.
2006-09-08 12:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by DidacticRogue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really donot think you need to feel guilty, Since you love the job and really confident of your abilities as a teacher certainly you can allow your husband to find a job for him other place and then move along with him.
But Morale not only depends on surroundings,some thing on us too.
well take the chances and do drive carefully ,
you have to take a decision sooner the better
all the best
2006-09-08 12:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by aarcee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could explain the situation to your employer and see if there's anything that could be arranged. You shouldn't have to choose between risking your life to get to work or making your husband stay in a job that he doesn't really like. If it snows, does the school ever close? Maybe that would help. Or, maybe you could move closer to the school, where other coworkers live and you could carpool.
Good luck!
2006-09-08 12:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kate F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that you are afraid to drive in bad weather so why don't you ask your husband to teach you drive in bad weather and to help you build confidence so that you can drive yourself. once you are not so afraid he can work at the other job and then you won't feel guilty and you'll have more confidence in yourself. good luck to you
2006-09-08 12:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by storm_magus3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband he can take that other job but on bad days he has to pay for your cab that will take you to and from work :)
2006-09-08 12:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Driving conditions to quit your job> health hazards? Never. Never heard of it...
2006-09-08 12:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by James S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm SURE he'd take it to heart...! Yes, let him know... And explain fully how you feel... That's what a relationship is all about...!
2006-09-08 12:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband seems to love you a lot and it's always good to feel appreciated for the things we do,and i really think you should let him know
2006-09-08 12:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋