and i dont know what to do!! i dont what him to think that having a baby will change our sexual lives that drastically. it seems that when we get home i will eat dinner, lay down & the next thing i know it is 6:30am and my alarm is going off & i never have time in the morning to make love, plus the movement will make me puke anyways!!!... what can i do to stay awake past 9pm!!! & once im sleeping GOD FORBID if he trys to wake me up, i get real mean!!! can anyone give me any suggestions on how i can try to keep things spicy while i feel like a zombie!!!
2006-09-08 12:10:32 · 21 answers · asked by miss me! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
will this insanely sleepy stage pass soon or is my entire pregnancy going to be like this??
2006-09-08 12:11:18 · update #1
ooh & me giving him oral sex right now is sooo out of the question...put anything in my mouth that i cant chew & make it go away i will puke in a second!!!! lol
2006-09-08 12:30:49 · update #2
You're not neglecting him. You're in a very special situation and can't be expected to keep up with the "keeping up" like before. If you're nauseated, exhausted and probably swollen, he should understand. If he thinks you're being cruel, HE needs to ask people for advice because HE'S got the problem, you don't.
If you WANT to be sexually active, you'll have to do something about the nausea. Don't drink anything with caffeine to keep yourself awake as it's been found that large amounts of the stuff may be detrimental to the babies health... so I don't know how you can perk yourself up.
Technically you can keep having sex until you go into labor, but honestly, if it's ever uncomfortable, just don't do it. And stop stressing over it too. Stress can lead to premature birth. The sleepiness may pass and the nausea is only supposed to hang around until the second trimester. Maybe then you'll be fit for the physical.
2006-09-08 12:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First off, you're the one who's carrying the baby for nine months. It's not that your boyfriend's needs don't matter, but your needs come first, for the baby's sake.
Maybe a romantic getaway would help, if he does all of the planning (that's something he can do while you're sleeping and he's hoping for sex). If you do the planning, you'll just end up more exhausted.
Having a baby does mean making drastic changes. Sacrifices are necessary, on both your parts. I'm not saying you should never have sex, but you'll probably have it less frequently as the baby will zap a lot of your energy! And that's something that he'll need to understand.
2006-09-08 19:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kate F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly how you feel, as I have two children and am five months pregnant, BUT, this should not be a reason for you to neglect your partner, as you will be pushing him away, many women act like they are disabled when they are pregnant and that should not be like that. Get on a treadmill and/or walk, exercise will give you energy. Also, make sure to keep up with yourself physically, your hair, nails, toes, etc. What is going to happen is that your partner will not enjoy the pregnancy as much as you, because he will see it as it being a pregnancy and him losing out. And then you take the chance of well, him looking else where what he cannot get from you and afterwards, you will be the only one hurt at the end, as if that is to happen, he will always be able to throw in your face, that he did it because you made him, as you did not take care of him.. You need to seriously start taking control of your body and at night, take a shower, just get in bed naked so like that you can avoid even having to get dress and play it along, all he needs is to release not an entire session, and then you can go to sleep..
2006-09-08 20:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, but it will change your sex lives drastically when the baby's born - baby comes first, no matter how inopportune.
Don't worry though, by about 5 months you should be passed the sleepy stage, but he needs to understand that making a baby takes a lot out of a woman and you need your rest! Feel free to take a nap after work and when you wake up in the evening you should feel recharged and not mind a little alone time with him.
2006-09-08 19:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's start with the ESSENTIALS. Do you take your daily vitamins? If not, you better. It is utterly important that you have your daily amount of Folic Acid.
Having a healthy baby means making sure you're healthy, too. One of the most important things you can do to help prevent serious birth defects in your baby is to get enough folic acid every day - especially before conception and during early pregnancy.
SPICY STUFF: My spouse and I are very sexually active. I am not sure what level your sexual drive is at, but if it's high than that means that enjoy oral pleasure. Now, you may not have the strength to have intercourse, but what's stopping both of you from have oral sex?? If that's not your thing, engage in "hand sex." Give him want he wants and he'll give you want you want :)
2006-09-08 19:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by iDefy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL, the sleepiness will pass. I remember being at that point and my man was like "what is this, one big permanent nap" sooooo tired, but it goes away in a bit. I think I was good at about 14 to 15 weeks. But watch out, it comes back the last few weeks of pregancy with a vengance! Just tell your man to chill, cause when the sleep part passes, the horniness comes on full force!
2006-09-08 19:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is the one unhappy about the lack of sex. If he is a good guy he will your current condition into consideration. Your body has a lot going on, it needs rest. Give it time.
2006-09-08 19:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey they need to realize that you are eating and sleeping for two. Having a baby does change your sex life big time. And your boyfriend needs to realize that you and the baby come first not his need to be gratified. things will be on and off again but if he loves you he will understand.
2006-09-08 19:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Michele V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you taking vitamins? you could need some iron. better tell your doctor.
i get sleepy each month right before my period starts. drives me crazy.
you can also have sex before you eat dinner. that way you won't puke with an empty stomach. get home and rip off your cloths and attack him. he will forget the past sleepy preggie woman tha can't get with it. good luck
2006-09-08 19:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by MotherNature 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try waiting until the weekend. You are totally normal. Give it a couple weeks, and you should have more energy and be over the morning sickness.
2006-09-08 19:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by seatonrsp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋