Whats it like to have a baby???

Question

im nearly 19 and Im thinking about having a baby, whats it like while your pregnant and afterwards??? Is it hard??? Are they expensive??? You only live once so I wana try.

Answer 1

"you only live once" is a poor reason to try for a baby. Especially when you don't have an idea of what it is like nor even know if they are expensive (to which you were a child. Think back of all the things you wanted and had. Now think of what children want and have in today's society. Get the picture?).

If you can't afford yourself. You can't afford a baby.

Pregnancy can be a blessing to some parents (hoping you are going to be married first and have a supported husband who is going to be a good dad figure!) and it can be horrible experience for others.

Babys are expensive. Especially as they get older and prices get a lot higher on materials (clothes to toys to school and activities they get in).

Not only are they expensive. They are also a lot of work when it comes to raising them. At 19, are you sure you want to not get more than 4 to 5 hours a sleep at night, if that, with an infant? Go through terrible two's by time you are 21/22 just to know they get a lot more older, extend of vocabulary and start to get involved in activities that take a lot of your time to attend and afford?

Kids are great. I know, I teach and work with over 800 at 16 different elementry schools I sub for. Plus, pre school I sub for as well that has 40 kids from 3 months to 12 years of age.

Yet, they also come with behavior and lots of patience in child/parent conflict as they get older. Any parent will tell you this. To which, I was told this today myself when I discussed to a teacher about having a baby in a few years after I get married etc.

I think you should wait a while. Live your life and have a blast. Then when ready to settle down and have all that out of your system, then I feel it be a good time to feel ready to dedicate 18 years of your life to another life. Instead of wishing like my mom who wishes she would of waited instead of being 18 with my sister. My mom now can't do the things since she is "too old" for those thrilling things (health etc).

My mom doesn't regret us young and she wouldn't go back and change it since she loves us all three. Yet, sometimes she can't help but think about what she missed out so we can have a good child hood with food and roof over our heads. Which we appreciate every single day. But I feel bad at times knowing my piano for my 7th birthday was used with her birthday money she recieved from family members. Which, didn't know that til years later.

So, if you decided to try for a baby. Please make sure you are prepared and have things set up before hand (money saved up, get into some pre-labor class's and parenting skills to help you feel more confident). Plus, good paying job with care of the male figure. Since once that baby is born, you can't put it back on those nights the baby won't sleep for nothing.

Answer 2

I had a baby at 19. I was almost 20. It was hard. Imagine trying to find a babysitter so you can go out, or even pay for a daycare to go to college. Is it expensive? You bet your butt it is. My daughter is 11 now and we still sometimes struggle with money. I agree that you only live once but wouldn't you wanna live your life in a good way? Like finish college, get a good job, then have a baby. You don't necessarily have to be married, just be financially prepared. I would say on an average having a child costs about 8,000 a year.

Answer 3

Wow, big question. They are expensive, yes. Pregnancy is easy for some women and hard for others, just like labor. My morning sickness was so bad that i couldn't eat for around three weeks, which left me bed bound because i was so weak from not eating. Labor is a thing all it's own. After wards, you barely sleep and are seriously exhausted. It's hard to have a social life without taking away from your time with you baby because they need you so much while they are small. Your body is never the same......never. Having a baby is great because of the bond, but it is hard as well. It isn't something to do because you only live once. You are still very young and you have years for starting a family. You should be concentrating on enjoying your life right now, whether that is college or simply getting out on your own. Whatever you are looking for, a baby is not a quick fix for anything, including happiness. They are wonderful, but you have to be ready for a child, not just wanting one. It's a 24/7 job that has no vacation or sick days.

Oh yea....the pain part? A good friend of mine stretched out so much during labor that the thin tissue between her vaginal canal and rectum ripped all the way.....in other words she had one big hole instead of two. She had many many stitches and a rather long healing time. My daughter is three and my back still hurts at times from my severe back labor during delivery. It isn't easy.

Answer 4

I can't answer the first bit, being a dad, not a mum, but I can help with the rest.

Yes, it is hard work. Children are not rational human beings. They won't wait until the programme has finished, or until you've woken up. They want, and they want it NOW.

Yes, they are expensive, more than you can ever imagine, even the cheap ones. For years and years. Then they give you grandchildren who still cost you.

Children take over and dominate your life in a way you cannot believe, yet they are the most wonderful thing that will ever happen to you. They are the point and purpose of your existence.

Don't rush, you have the next twenty years to make up your mind. For both your and the baby's sake, plan it out, get yourself settled, and get something behind you first.

Answer 5

having a baby is very scary and it hurts. I had a baby boy he was a 11 lbs and 23 1\4 inches long and I was scared to death. People say you will forget the pain of having them you dont when your in labor for 3 weeks you can get really sick and you have to take care of yourself. I only have my son because of all the complication I have had.wait until you have someone to help you through all the pain . I gained so much weight and I was 19 when I had him and Im 23 and I still have not lost all the weigh. They are VERY expensive I work 2 1\2 jobs to support him and me. I say wait!!!!!!!! It is very hard

Answer 6

First of all, don't have a child if you can't afford one. Just because there is welfare, doesn't mean it's a green light for everyone to have a baby.

If you are asking questions like these, you are not ready. I am a guy but I remember my having the big belly blues, being tired, afraid she wasn't pretty anymore (she was hot as hell in my book!)

The nurse at birth classes described a vaginal birth as feeling like the biggest bowel movement she'd ever had.

Afterwards there is the taking care of another human being. Your wants/needs come second (or third/fourth, etc.) depending on how many kids you have.

Answer 7

I had mine around that age, ( i have 2 now). There is alot to think about, the changes in your body, the money ( depending if you have insurence or not...if not medicare if very helpful aswell as WIC). Having someone to help you is also very helpful.....if it weren't for my husband i dont think i could have done it, he was my foucus point during labor. Taking the classes might be a drag but it is helpful in understanding things that can occur during and after labor. (It's hard if you have twin or more but if there is someone to help its all good.i dont think i could do it though.) Mine are just a year and a half apart and it's crazy, hair pulling sometimes, and then its wonderful and joyfull other times. Being calim is the best you can do. If in labor you have pain there are medications they can give you however i didnt take any, i enjoy getting up after and taking a shower but with the epidural you can't ( also there might be more complications since it gose in your spine, just resesch more on it) but its really where you are in life. Right now im trying to go back to school to get a degree yet it is harder after you have kids, thinking about there future is really the big step before deciding if you want kids or not.....( but dont get me worng im planning to have another one next year after i finish the spring semester). good luck on your decision, and afterwards....sleep while the baby sleeps, try to get them on a schedule,..my friends baby is 6 mounths and still does not sleep through the night .however i got mine to sleep through the night after 2 months........schedules (like naps ) help out alot, and interaction is always good to get them talking and walking........however transfering to diapers to toilet is not that easy im still working on it ( which can dig into your piggy bank since i got 2 with them) and my son will be 3 in november. but have fun and hopefully my imput helps out :+)~

Answer 8

I got pregnant at 19 and am now 33. It is the hardest thing I have ever done, but the most rewarding. You dont know what you are getting into. Try college, and marriage. Grow up you are not ready to become a mother.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Make sure you are in a stable relationship and have money saved up before getting pregnant, just in case you have complications and can't work. Yes, babies and kids are expensive. It takes a minimum of $100,000 to raise one through highschool, and that is for a healhy child. My son was a preemie and his total hospital bill would have paid for raising 2.5 kids ($249,000 for the 10 weeks he was in the hospital) Thank God for health insurance!