My fiance called me in tears, saying his son's mom is moving. Now, his son died at three months old and to my knowledge him and her have not been involved in a long while. Jaden (his son) died Sept 05. He told me he made a promise to his son (in a dream) that he would always watch over his mom (ex), and now he feels he is breaking a promise to his dead son, because he can't watch over her. Pls tell me what you think.
2006-09-08 11:48:30 · 10 answers · asked by vernise2679 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sooooo sorry, his son died Sept 2005.
2006-09-08 12:13:23 · update #1
Yeah, that sounds like what u said. Hopefully he will get over it. He is still
grieving over his son, and he always will have a soft spot about him. And that
is ok. What is NOT ok,...is his crying over some girl who had his kid. He will
have more children. So, he needs to just let go of her. Tell him to ask God
for help, to see things more clearly. Best of luck 2 U both....
2006-09-08 14:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like subconciously he may still have some feelings for the ex. But with all this tragedy that is going on with his son dying he should really get into counseling and work through it. He certainly isn't bound by some oath he made in a dream to take care of his ex. The only thing he was bound to take care of was his son and his son has passed on. Get him into grief counseling asap.
2006-09-08 18:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it is an emotional time. He may have some feelings for her but I am pretty sure the flame is not lit anymore.
At this moment he probably feels a connection towards her because they did share a baby together and that's a magic moment. They also lost a baby together, so they've been through some tough times. He should accept that she is moving and realize he doesn't have to be next to her to watch her, he can always check up on her by phone to see how she is doing once in a while..
2006-09-08 18:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to get over it.; an ex is an ex. It sounds to me like he's still grieving over the loss of his son - it's a hell of a loss to go through. But in order for him to have a meaningful future with someone else he really needs to let go and move on. Perhaps you can help him do so - gently; I don't think he's as much "stuck" on his ex as he is having trouble letting go of his grief over the child.
2006-09-08 18:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not about his ex. It is about his son and the promise he made to him about watching over his mom. It sounds like he's not over the grieving process with his son and is in the guilt stage of it. U need to allow him time to properly grieve for him and hopefully eventually he will come to terms with the fact that he, himself needs to move on with his life.
2006-09-08 18:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably..they had a child together, so there will always be feelings there. He is grieving and doesn't need his fiance breathing down his throat about his feelings for his ex. If you don't back off, you will completely lose him. He may need some space.
2006-09-08 18:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by htowngirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he might still have feelings for her im sorry for his loss but come on in his dreams he made a promise dont let him sucker you into that one
2006-09-08 19:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by dkay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i bet. come on the baby paswsed. the mom will get on with life & so should he. unless ther is an ulterior motive & she is still a booty call. send him packing.
2006-09-08 18:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by virgo1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he is still hung up on her. i think its sad about their baby, but i don't think it's a reason to cling to her irrationally. she can take care of herself and if she needs something legitimate, she can call him, period.
2006-09-08 18:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Eos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is still in love with his ex.
2006-09-08 19:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋