Well guys do that all the time. I am afraid that if I keep on waiting for that special 'thrill' I will be looking for too long. This guys is nice and I think I should keep on dating him just for the sake of it. After all, guys have dates without feelings involved, why cant women do the same? The only difficult part is when he looks at me and asks me if I am falling in love too.... but I just say something like: 'oh it is too early to say", etc. I guess since I dont like, things are going to be ok, right? I dont want to stop seeing him just cause I dont have any feelings for him (besides physical attraction), after all, I am not in love with anyone right now... and I dont think that not being in love necessarily means that you have to be alone!
2006-09-08 11:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think there is still much chauvinism around... even in 2006! If a guy does certain things, he is just being a 'guy', if a woman does, she is selfish and cruel. Where is gender equality after all? Are not all of us human beings?
2006-09-08 14:34:39 · update #1
How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
Being with someone just because you don't want to be alone is a really bad idea... what gives you the right to take time out of his life when he could be meeting his true love, just because you need company? Selfish...
Nobody is condoning that behaviour from men. This is the problem with Womens' Lib... too busy trying to pay back, rather than focus on equality.
So, you're saying it is OKAY for men to do this to you? Hmmm....
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2006-09-08 11:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you've made up your mind already but I'll be honest with you it's really not right.
You're not being fare to the guy. Here he is thinking he's in this great relationship...having eyes for no one but you..and really your just waiting for someone better to come along.
It's not fare to him because he should have the freedom to find someone else that truly cares about him...and the truth is if your with someone then your narowing your own options. All that tine that your spending with this guy that you don't really like you could be out mneeting other guys...and a lot of guys who may be interested may not take a chance on you because they think your with someone.
Good luck!
2006-09-08 18:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LoL..first of all , just cuz guys do it all the time doesn't mean it's RIGHT!! :) most women are heartbroken cuz guys do it to them.. however, it is up to you if it makes u feel bad about yourself (which i kinda think it does, cuz ur trying to justify everything!), i suggest letting him go. to give him a chance to find someone who actually WILL love him, as he loves her. not someone who pretends, just to use him for sex. it's just not "nice".
the thing about relationships is, it is 2 people. and each of you have to work hard at it, to maintain it, and to grow it. if u are not in it to grow and learn and make him happy, and take care of him, then u are the "bad" "mean" "selfish" one in the relationship. many times, its the man who is that person. howevever, in this case it is you. and when he tells u he loves u, and is falling in love, and asks you, he needs your validation. and u are not giving it to him...therefore, u are not *Respecting* what he feels and says to you. this is not a healthy relationship.
in the end, i think u will see that it is better to be single, than to string someone along. if u are confused about him, then give him a chance. but if u already decided that he bores you, and ur not into him, my advice is to let go of your selfishness to not be alone, and give BOTH of you the chance to search for someone Right for YOU, and Right for Him. good luck, and make sure u seek positive, healthy, and happy things in ur life. if u are a negative person , selfish, meaningless, using...eventually u will have nothing good in ur life. =T
2006-09-08 18:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it all depends as long as he knows you are not seriouse then what the hell have fun. If you are however letting him think that this is going somewhere then it is wrong. This is one of those to many circumstances things.
2006-09-08 18:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by SassyFras85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is kinda mean. Don't lead him on. Just because some guys are stupid & they do that, we're different. Be honest with him. You will end up hurting him. Good luck.
2006-09-08 18:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lead him on. Make sure he knows that it won't go anywhere. If he has dreams of marriage and you know that'll never happen, that isn't cool.
2006-09-08 18:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by hslayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finally a girl that makes sense!!
2006-09-08 18:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jon B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You will get used to him. You will eventually like him.
2006-09-08 18:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that it's not from wisdom to do that & iam totally agree with 'mama_bears_den'::thanks so mush girl.
2006-09-08 18:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Fatima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should become a lesbian. Do your homework.
2006-09-08 18:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋