We were really close pals for over 10years. He however often wanted more (proposed many times). Then I got pregnant by someone else and I never heard from him again.
He's married now to his old boss - the one he fobbed off for years.
We mis-spent our youth together though and by far he was the funniest and brightest man I have known - yet to me he was always like a brother..
Anyways - I am seeing a lovely bloke now who I think is threatened that I miss my old pal but I can't help feeling sadness we ain't pals any more..
Thanks for listening - just having a 'moment'
2006-09-08 11:34:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Great advice - too late though. Emotive at the best of times but a wine/old tunes combination is hard to resist.
Hmm, often thought that someone should fit breathalaysers to all phones - that invention woulda saved me many a crimson cheek - a cyber breathalyser not a bad idea either!
2006-09-08 11:42:10 · update #1
Done it and don't expect to hear back - I just miss him like hell. And cos our friendship ended so abruptly after so long never had closure. He didn't just cut me off but everyone else in our group too. Moved away.
Thing is as I say I am blessed with a lovely bloke now and feel bad that he feels threatened (cos there is no need - it a different kind of feeling entirely)
2006-09-08 11:45:09 · update #2
If you are tipsy, write the e-mails to your hearts content, BUT then save them as drafts.
Read over, and send if you choose, when COMPLETELY SOBER.
Once sent, e-mails cannot be recalled!
2006-09-08 11:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by zen 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Can't believe this, I am in exactly the same situation. Believe me, stay there. Friends is friends, if it was meant to be more there would of been all this love at first sight, animal instinct, animal magnetisim. I know people say your friends become your best lovers but it's not true. You wonder what it could be ike with them, try it , then realise you have just ruined a really good friendship. If it was meant to be that way inclined it would have been by now. Stop thinking of maybes and cherish him as a friend thats always gonna be there. XXXXX ( I was best friends with a lad from the age of 14 to 21, we did everything/experienced everything together but nothing sexual, that should make sense to you, we misspent our youth together, drugs, drink, parents, partners etc, he often tried it on but I was having non of it, not cos I did'nt fancy him, but cos he was like a friend/brother. I met up with him by accident 3 years after and slept with him, it cheapened and ruined everything (and any respect) we ever had for each other. He still rings wanting to know me but I feel like i've lost a really good riend and gained a notch.
2006-09-08 11:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Justme.X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah definetly e-mail him just not when your tipsy, i've been in a similar situation so i think the guy will be feeling the same way, and if you do decide to email, dont make it as long and as deep as the question cos he could of moved on, just simply say "hi, how are you or something and see what sort of reply you get (if he does) and then take it from there
2006-09-09 04:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jamieson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't understand everything you said...but right now I'm quite tipsy.There are times I call old friends when I am tipsy....I think
of all the good ole times we had and just sometimes wish I could just go back there ......if only for a few moments .....just reminensce.......the only thing that is sobering....is the phone bill.
2006-09-08 11:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your new bloke is feeling jealous its normal and remember blokes are always more imature than us females and they cant handle old male mates.I think we all have moments when we look back at our past and things always seemed so perfect then but at the time it probably wasn,t and stay away from the pc when you've had one to many i know ive done it many times and made a fool of myself.We all have our 'moments' I have them, quite regular enjoy them.
2006-09-08 11:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i once had a friend who i loved dearly, but he was my boss at work, although we were friends untill i left and took the company to tribunal. the word was that he then resigned i didnt believe his resignation had anything to do with my case but he won't speak to me now. i don't know what happened but i would never have done or said anything to hurt him in fact i would have cheerfully killed anyone who would. i think it is very sad that we had to part in this way. so have some idea how you feel. lets just have another drink
2006-09-08 11:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to emale him dont do it tipsy, for starters you wont k'member what you said and if hes married you may cause problems, I know its tempting ( i did something similar)
good luck
2006-09-08 11:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋