help with friends??

Question

my friends are starting to leave me out on stuff. and what usually would be funny to us is now just stupid to them, and when i laugh, they all say how emature i am, but im way more mature then they are & i know that for a fact. they are the best friends i've ever had, and even if i wanted to leave them, there's no one really i can go to. my best friend likes a girl she used to hate(and someone I STILL HATE) and now i have no one to turn to when i need a friend. *help please?* they also told me i could go to the fall fair but then when i called, i found out they had already left, with out me. =( i feel terrible

Answer 1

if they were truely your friends they wouldn't do that. The same thing happened to me and now i have the best friend i have ever had. Now when they see me laughing in the hallway they get so mad, and all the boys seem to like me alot more now that im not with them.I hope this helps.

Answer 2

that's not cool.. =T and it happens sometimes, when girls become cliqueish and leave people out..and u might never really know the reason!! perhaps ur friend is following along w/ someone else, they are saying bad things about u, etc.

here's the thing: u can never Force someone to Change. however, CAN control the way YOU act, and react, to situations.

so if they are leaving u out, don't get upset about it. just know inside, that they are gonna do that to ya. and don't get as close to them anymore.... try to be social in general at school, and find some new people that u have similar interests with.. like a club or something. u'll realzie that u can have a whole bunch of Different people as friends...and then u can see who is worth keeping close, and who may need a little distance. instead of judging others, just keep working on Yourself. your studies, your personality, ur confidence, ur appearance, and ur personality: u'll learn that you are a wonderful person, and anyone who doesn't like u or treats u badly isn't that great =T. but don't ever judge them or be mean back to them; just know who is worth being friends w/ and who's not. and be friendly to everyone in school, and get to know others in general. u may see that the ones u were afraid to talk to are actually pretty cool. :)

also, i suggest keeping close relationships w/ ur parents and family members.. they will be able to help you as you learn who ur friends really are.

Answer 3

Sounds like these friends of yours are starting to lose sight of the big picture. Being the most mature and most popular isn't the greatest goal for young-women to have. I remember when friends of mine did this to me in high school that I was bummed out, but realized that joining thier manipulative social climbing wasn't what was best for me. Just be yourself and either they'll come around or others will recognize the value of having a friend that is true to themselves. Also, don't feel like you need to be attached to do what you want - explore on your own without them. Your adventuresome tendency might perk their interest or make them realize they can't make you feel like you're 'priviledged' to hang with them.

Answer 4

Teenage girls tend to "triangulate" and tag-team on the "odd man out".

This isn't anything you have done. This is sheer insecurity at its' best. To boost their esteem, they target you as the "immature" one.

With girls, this can be a brutal time. Your best friend(s) ever can rapidly become your #1 enemy - sometimes overnight.

Don't chase them or try to mold into their game. Be yourself. It may seem hard or lonely at first, but your indifference to their drama will set them back on an even keel.

WHATEVER you do, don't tell them you are hurt by this. That is the opposite of what you want to do. Don't buy into the game and you will be fine. In fact, you may find them catering more towards you!

Answer 5

If your friends are going to treat you like that then maybe you should start looking for new ones but people don't usally just wake up one day and decide to change everything about themeselfs so mabey it was someting that you did? but ethier way you should still confront them and ask wats going on

Answer 6

i have the same problem. i am in a small small small school, only 14 people in my grade total. my friend totally ditched me for a girl i hate. i think she might change her mind in the end if you were that tight. if not just join a sports team, club or somthing, get some new friends. they'll keep your mind off her, and your other friends. i did just that, and it really helped.

Answer 7

I'm sorry sweetie, it sounds like as you are growing up, you are also growing apart. Sometime we mature at different rates than our friends. Use this as an opportunity to spend time with other friends.

Answer 8

It sounds like they don't like hanging out with you anymore, why don't you talk to them and find out what's really going on before you make assumptions, and if they don't want you around anymore than the hell with em! you're better off finding friends that are worth your time and friendship.

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Answer 10

Have you thought about asking them what's going on? You sound like you've been out-casted. Maybe you pissed someone off and they influenced your friends or maybe a bad rumor got out. Same thing happened to my daughter till she found out someone spread a lie about her.