I work as a registered nurse in a hospital. About 16 months ago a new nurse started work with us. From day one all we heard was how she couldn't afford this for her kids or that for her kids. That her husband had passed away, and left her in debt. My best friend and I have collected donatetions for her kids birthdays, Christmas and lately back to school items. My best friend and I went to pick up our pay checks today, and this women drives up in a brand new Corvette. Wouldn't say to words to use, and left. We couldn't figure out what the heck was going on. The new radiologist told us he had worked with her at a different hospital and that she has always pulled the same I am broke bit. Her husband is not dead they have been legally seperated for years and he pays her $5800.00 a month in child support and maintance. I wanted to go and tell her off. My friend and I feel so stupid. What would you do? We not only used our money for her kids but other people hard earned money. Please help.
2006-09-08 10:30:50 · 8 answers · asked by Kali_girl825 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We want to handle this in a civil matter. We already got a stupid suggestion to slash her tires. I don't want to do something like that. But we do fill like we want some kind of (Revenge) For lack of a better word.
2006-09-08 10:33:32 · update #1
The radilogist she worked with knows her estranged husband. He is a Doctor. With a very good practice. I checked up on this to make sure it was true. I talked to her estranged hubby. And he confirmed that all of it is true. And that is one of the biggest reason they are not together, her lying.
2006-09-08 10:54:52 · update #2
I want to make this clear. I did not call her estranged husband. He called me. The radologist told him what was going on. And he called me.
2006-09-08 11:36:43 · update #3
It's unfortunate that this person took advantage of you and your other co-workers that way. Apparently, she's one of those who has no conscience whatsoever. I wonder how a person like that can look at herself in a mirror or sleep at night.
Well, on the other hand, you and your co-workers did a very nice and philanthropic thing by donating, even to a wretch that didn't deserve it. So you can feel proud and worthy that you did something with honorable intentions, and that it came from the heart. I know you would like to get revenge, but it wouldn't serve any useful purpose, and you don't want to sink down to her level. What she did was extortion, and she will have to pay for her sins in the end.
When Judgment Day arrives, you'll have a clean slate. But guess who will be trying to sneak to the end of the line?
2006-09-08 10:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many people who drive nice cars and they are broke. I see it all the time. Don't assume someones "status" just because they drive a nice car. Second, how do you know for sure that she gets $5800 a month for child support? Did you find out from a reliable source or "he-say-she-say"? For someone to have to pay that much in child support, they have to be very wealthy! What do you know about her estranged husband? At any rate, you and your friend did the right thing by helping someone. I am sure that is why you became a nurse in the first place. Don't feel bad or used for being a caring person. You cared, and that is a good thing. I don't think you should confront this woman-especially if you don't really know her situation. Just distance yourself from her, keep it hi-and-bye with her, don't give her anymore money, and don't let this situation stop you from helping and caring for others, okay? Peace.
2006-09-08 10:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What right have you got to contact her ex - husband? who do you think you are?
Your co - worker probably can't afford some items for her children. She may be in loads of debt and in her mind her husband has died. It is interesting that when you called her ex - husband, he did not confirm the amount of child support and maintenance he gives her. to be honest, it is none of your business.
Your main concern is that she pulled up in her new car and did not say anything to you. Had she said hello, your attitude may have been different. No one asked you to buy the children gifts, for xmas and birthdays. To your co - worker these could have been simply gifts. As for school items.. what school items are you talking about?
What is the mater with you? The reason why she didn't say anything to you was probably because she heard that the gifts you gave her for her children were as a result of donations and collections made by you. She probably feels insulted and to top it off you called her ex husband who is probably a liar himself. You are definately in the wrong on this one. You do not even know how she came to be in possession of the car you envy..
Why don't you take the licence plate number and ask the car company how much she pays each month... that is exactly what people like you and your 'best mate' would do. Leave this woman alone or apologise for treating her like a poverty case. Everyone can complain about debt and bills if they want!!! don't take it upon yourself to solve people's pervceived problems.
2006-09-08 11:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell everyone that donated their time or money and then, confront her, some people might not want to, but those of you who want to should tell her how you feel about the betrayal. People like her make it hard for everyone else to be kind, because people are now going to be hesitant to try to help someone else who is in real need. I would be very careful of what you say, because she obviously sounds like a low life and probabyl would sue you or something, and then tell her that what she did was rude, etc etc.. then let it go.. or I guess you can try going to Human Resources, but I am not sure what they can do about that.
I believe in Karma, she'll get it in the end .... we can only hope
2006-09-08 10:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bec 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may not seem like it right now but you will get your blessing in the end and she will pay. settle down you learned a good lesson not to believe nothing you hear and only half what you see.
2006-09-08 10:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let everyone else know what you know. Tell everyone in front of her so she knows that everyone knows. That was a very good thing that you did and she totally took advantage of your kindness, That's sooooo wrong and she will get hers in the end.
2006-09-08 10:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would either pull her aside and tell her how you feel or i would call her out infront of every one
2006-09-08 10:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by kla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she need help tell you feel about this
2006-09-08 10:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋