just wondering. If you like the person and you just need more, what should we do?
2006-09-08 09:52:45 · 21 answers · asked by kurticus1024 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hell on Earth. You have to do a gut-check. First decide for youself how important it is for you to be with someone who meets your needs for sex and affection, then find out what is the minimum you need to be happy.
Then depending on what you decided, you need to have a frank and open discussion with your spouse and communicate your feelings to them. Tell them that you don't want to be married to someone who doesn't share your goal of a marriage with good sex and affection. Since this is a very important and serious matter it's best to do this in a marriage counselling situation.
Good luck! These are important issues that have been the death of many marriages. You are not shallow because this is important to you. I think it is inappropriate for other answerers to suggest this. If your spouse is neglecting your basic needs you should not feel shame communicating this to them as they would do the same if it were some different issue that was important to them. Unfortunately, for many people, after you have been married for a while or had children, one partner's desire drops dramatically. This is not your fault. I hope you figure out what you need and achieve your happiness goals.
2006-09-08 10:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. When my boyfriend and I first got together we would do it 3 times a day now that we have been together for 3 years and have a child we do it about 3 times a week. I want it all the time. Everyday any time of day and he says that he needs to rest. I think that if you really love the person you should stay with them and stick it out but if it is just liking the person then you should talk about it and probably leave.
2006-09-08 16:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide to be satisfied with what you get, or leave and find the person in the world that meets your needs. I have finally found the man that can keep up with me, and it is the greatest...this is so important to a relationship, you have to be on the same page, or you are gonna be miserable...and make your partner miserable. Life is too short, you gotta make it count!!
2006-09-08 17:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the depends on whether you need more sex. If you do...then I guess you should talk to your spouse about it...or take matters into your own hands so to speak. I've been in a marriage like that and it's very difficult and frustrating.
2006-09-08 17:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same sit, my wife has absolutely no desire for sex and I like any other man wants it like air, it leads to nasty fights and I have been married for 7 years and through all of the 7 years I was the one who did the begging not her
2006-09-08 16:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by "more"......sorry, but my boyfriend (we live together, 2 years) wants it like 3 or 4 times a day......and not for 2 minute man's either! I just don't have time to get it on every single time he feels like it.....I DON'T!!!
Now, if you are talking about she/he only wants it a couple times a week and you would like it once a day, twice on weekends, THATS REASONABLE.....you haven't stated these details in your question...it would be helpful....
2006-09-08 17:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything else is fine and your getting shorted on the sex, get a sex partner to fill in the gap.
2006-09-08 22:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely try and talk about it. My bf and I are having that problem right now. Maybe your partner is having some kind of sexual problem you dont know about. Communication is the key in any relationship.
2006-09-08 17:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by kareful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be shallow or selfish. If you want more sex, talk to your partner about it. They might not want to have more sex or they might want to and they think you didn't.
A relationship should never be about sex; sex is a plus, not the main deal. If you treat it as, you're not ready for a real commitment and you're a selfish pig.
2006-09-08 17:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Act like you don't want it and that will make her want you to want her, which leads to you know what!!! Works like a charm because women want you to desire them enough that they will become the aggressor to make sure that you still are interested in them.
2006-09-08 20:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by runninfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋