why this man said he loves me and my kids and grandkids when he continues to pull the same stuff as he did when we were married years ago,he promised me and my kids he would never do this again, my daughter told him that he needs to stop using me as a doormatt, my oldest son is in a mental hospital and he knows what he is doing to this family agaain, after he promised him that things would change,my son realy cares and hoped that he would work things out with me this time, my other two children also. my daughter is so sick of him hurting this family. she told him this time if he messes it up forgood this time that she will notspeak to him or let him have any contact with her baby, she told him my mom loves you and shes given you way to many chances. the oldest son said hed rather stay in the hospital for the 10rs than come home and see what he is doing to you mom, this man has been in uor lives since the kids were little and they cant understand why he treats us this way.
2006-09-08 09:46:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi,
My Mom is in the same situation. I don't know why a person doesn't change. BUT it's really not all that important. The important thing now is "What are you gonna do about it".
Sounds like your kids have had it........is he worth losing them too.
Blessings and peace
2006-09-08 09:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by hisgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you stay in this relationship. He's not going to change. You see what this realtionship has done to your kids. Get out of it before he goes to far and seriously hurt you or one of your children. You don't have to put up with this. You can make it on your own. You are a good person and deserve better. Get him out of your life NOW.
2006-09-08 09:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ladies could by no skill sleep with a taken guy... ladies ought to appreciate one yet another! How might you experience if some floozy slept with a selection of of of your destiny important others? i'm specific you does not like it. yet, it became into probable a one time undertaking for him. He wasn't getting adequate interest from his lady chum, so he needed an elementary restore, you have been his elementary restore. Now that he have been given what he needed/mandatory.. he should be together with his lady chum who he initially "enjoyed" in the 1st place. It wasn't you, it became into him.
2016-10-14 11:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question inbedded in this is why do you allow him to come back? How many times does he have to pull the same stunts before it finally sinks into your head that this is how the man is and cut the cord?
2006-09-08 09:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself in counseling. I suspect that you are one of those women who have is scared of living a normal life. You'd rather subject yourself and your children to a chaotic existence with a monster who will never change. You are his co-dependent, enabler or whatever you want to call it. You are the one allowing him to ruin your life. No one else.
2006-09-08 10:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As harsh as this may seem, I have to ask, why did you believe him...again?
A leopard never changes his spots.
That's not to say that with hard work, a good therapist, and a willing heart that you can't make major changes in your life and lifestyle.
But honey....your gonna have to use tough love on yourself....and kick his *** to the curb and never let him back in....EVER.
2006-09-08 09:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cannot change anyone else but we can change how we deal with him/her.
If doing the same thing is producing the same results then it's time to change what you do.
2006-09-08 10:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by mjdp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on, you are ruining it for your kids you you know what he is like but you continue to take him back time to act like a mother and grandmother and be strong like you know you should be stop blaming him it is your fault for this
2006-09-08 09:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will scar your kids for life if you put up with this. You are just as sick as he is if you continue this......Think about it, it always takes 2
2006-09-08 09:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow him to. Get rid of him...you don't need negativity in your life, do you??
2006-09-08 10:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋