Please, my friend needs help.This is serious. What am I to do?

Question

Ok, my friend has a neighbor who she likes and they're friends and everything. But the thing is that he does some serious drugs, and now my friend is doing them. She just told me today that she smoked weed and now feels like ****. I got really pissed at her when she tols me she tried coke. She's doing this all because of a boy. My other friend and I tell her to stop and everything and she said she's trying but i dont know.... I dont want to loose my best friend over this. How can I make her stop for good. I care about her and love her, she says that she wants to be a dentist, but now she's just throwing her life away...

The kid is so messed up, he smokes too, But the thing is he's 15 and my friend is just turning 13. And when they are at eachothers houses they make out and stuff....ugh i just want to kill that kid for doing this to my best friend!!

Answer 1

Quite frankly, if it were me, I would immediately tell your friends parents of the situation. I know, I know....you think you will lose a friend over doing that.....but I'm telling you, nothing you do or say is going to change the fact that without some serious intervention (the kind a parent can provide), you're friend will continue to spiral down.

Answer 2

Drugs and alcohol are very serious. This is something that could change her whole life forever. Once you make that decision to do those things, nothing is ever the same. It is addictive and it is something she will have to live with forever.

My husband was a drug addict and alcoholic as a young teenager, he didn't stop until in his late 20's! Just because his friends were doing it, he did it. He lost years of his life, ended up in jail. That is a lot to give up. He lost his family, in the end he had no friends, and he just ended up in a whole lot of trouble. He did get in recovery and people learned to trust him again. He married me & we are very happy, but it doesn't go away. He has been sober for 3 years but still dreams about it and thinks about it.

If you care about her, even if you know she would hate you for the rest of her life, I would tell her parents. I would tell her family to get her help. I know that is a drastic step but you will be saving her life in the long run. You would be doing it for her. The thing is, my husband was lucky, it didn't kill him. Your friend could lose her life from it. It is possible. So you would be saving her, her future.

She could hate you forever, she might never want to speak to you again, but you just tell her that you did it for her. Then maybe someday she will understand how great of a friend you were being.

Answer 3

The best thing to do is going to be the hardest thing to do. Tell her parents what is happening. You may lose a friend but at least she will be alive. If she is doing hard drugs there is no way she can stop on her own. Eventually she will see that what you did meant you care for her, that may take a few years. Don't let people talk you out of it. Get her the help she needs now.

Answer 4

Hello, You're right this is serious. I don't think that she is old enough to understand all the consequences for what she is doing. She is starting down a road that can ruin her future (and maybe her life too!) You are a way better friend to her than this boy (thank goodness she has you ) Drugs make her feel good & this boys "love" is making her feel good too - so that's a lot of good feelings to let go of - but she has to! She needs to stop seeing this boy first - then she needs to hang around good influences like you & your friends. She may have to get into drug rehab or something to get straitened out- she will suffer some withdrawal symptoms but it will be worth it believe me to clean up, Drugs are deceptive -first they give then they take away.....bye & good luck

Answer 5

You need to go to your mom. Maybe she can help. Or if you feel comfortable talking with her mother, then you need to go to her parents. Drugs are a serious deal!!!! If neither of these sound like good options, then talk to your school counselor. She can intervene. I hope you get her some help before a really bad problem occurs. Addiction is a bad bad bad, life threatening, life taking deal! I know you dont want to get her into trouble, but you dont want to see her dead either!

Answer 6

Sadly, There is no way to directly influence her to not do those as people have free-will which means they will do what they want to.

I suggest telling her parents or the police, Or suggest for her to get some professional addiction help. Remember, Its for the own good of your friend.

Answer 7

Tell her parents darlin'
It's the only way. They need to take care of their daughter. You need to realize that your friendship may hit a rough patch at first but it's better to have her alive, here & not talking to you then dead & not talking to anyone.
She needs help only her parents & professionals can give. If her parents don't believe you....then tell yours & have them call the police.

Good luck & I hope your friend gets the help she needs. You are a good friend for worrying & wanting to help her. :)

Answer 8

first of all if she is your friend, then support what she does, not try to talk her out of things, and just because she is into things you are to scared to do , is no reason to stop being friends with her ,, when i was that age i did all sorts of drugs, actually all through high school, ,, but i grew out of it , and now i have a really good paying job,, it is most likely just a stage,,

Answer 9

What a terrible situation. How would you feel about reporting their drug use to a school counselor or other authority? That's the only way you'll achieve your objective. You're right, she's throwing her life away.

Answer 10

Shes her own person you cant tell her what to do but I would try to hang out with her as much as you can especially when shes with him so you can atleast keep an eye on her