HELP!? please!!?

Question

I have no self confindence. I have done tons of things I get good grades I sang in Carngie hall I act I speak chinese I play the flute at a college level even though I am a high school student I also play field hockey and I am popular.... but I have no self confidence Please HELP

Answer 1

Most young people have a bit of self doubt, but what you have to do is fake it. Pretend you're a really cool, confident character out of one of your favourite films. Hold your head up high, smile and try to think positive. You'll probably never think you're absolutely fantastic, but hopefully in time you'll be able to appreciate your good qualities. take care x

p.s you speak chinese? wow!

Answer 2

I'd like to start by suggesting you ignore all the idiots with their stupid answers. The lack of self confidence can be serious and the flippent answers may make matters worse.

Based on what you've told us it sure sounds like you have a lot to be proud of. Someone wrote fake being happy. That's not far from being a good idea. Smile a lot, it's hard to be sad when you smile. Have you noticed that if you smile more people around you smile back? Perhaps talk to a teacher you like or talk to a school counselor. I didn't suggest talking to your parents because talking to them could be very difficult. How aobut talking to a priest? Even if your not religious they are good listners and the advice would probably be quite good. You could go in to the confession booth and talk to the priest annonymously.
High scholl can be tough and other kids can be harsh. Hang in there and don't be affraid to ask for help.

Good luck

Answer 3

I run into the same problem myself. What I do is think of things that make me feel confident. Yesterday I bought a hat, though shopping is NOT the answer, and it makes me feel great. It's just a normal every day hat, nothing special about it, but when I wear it I feel confident I am being me. I play with it in class, tick it one way and then the other. Even keeping it in my line of sight makes me really happy. This is the first time I have ever had a relationship with a peice of clothing. I am by no means going to run out and be outgoing. It's not a cure-all. But it helps. Find something uniquely your own, even if it's just a silly little bracelet you made (mine is on my ankle) that reminds you that you are unique.

And don't worry about it, lots of teenagers feel the same way. Heck lots of adults do too. Just try not to be something you aren't. Not only does it confuse you later on, it confuses other people. I know it's corny, but that's what I got.

Answer 4

To feel better about yourself, exercise. Not only does it tone your muscles, but you lose weight and it relieves you of some stress. After exercising for 30 minutes you should feel great. Finish off with eating something healthy or drinking a health smoothie or something. Being healthy makes me feel great about my self. Other techniques you can use include naming all your best qualities. You are popular, play the flute, speak chinese, get good grades - think of how great you are compared to the other people in your class. Just hold your head up high and think of the things that make you great. Good luck!

Answer 5

Get together with some groups outside of what you already do. Youth group at your local church is a fabulous place to start. Take a friend if you are shy. They usually meet once during the week and once on the weekend and they usually have a lot of fun things to do. Another thing is to get involved at your school with helping out younger children. Little kids always look up to the older ones and you will feel like a star! If you are old enough to babysit, take the course and start babysitting. Hope these ideas help! Have a nice day!

Answer 6

Hi there,

Somtimes even though there are exiting things and alot of people that you have in your life cannot bring the confidence that you are looking for. Sometimes there are hurts that we bring with us through life. I think that maybe there is some hurt in you. Something inside of you has happened. You got broke. What happened? Was it when you where alittle girl? Look into the past and see what doors emotionally you havn't clossed. Your energy is running low, you are focusing on other people,,,,,,,,,( people pleaser)............mmmmmmmmmmmm......................what do you think?

I think you need to get to some closure on what ever it is that has hurt you...............once you feel that you are ok about it; then you can see that you are ok and nothing is wrong with you. I think that what ever it is it has made you feel wronged; the lack of what it is to keep you feeling good.
Once you feel that you have not only healed, and then be renewed, then youcan feel that you are empowered over what you have learned. That is when you will blossom into a woman with not only seeing that you can do great things and make wonderful friends, but you need to heal to feel good about your self..............remeber dig deep, maybe this was in your childhood your last year who knows but be honest with your self........good luck , I hope this helps............

Answer 7

Seems like you parents have put a lot of pressure on you to excell and not really invested enough time in giving you self-confidence, or reassurance. Something's obviously lacking in your life, and I think your parents have done a pretty s h i t t y job at caring for and about you...

Answer 8

Face your fears. Learn how to spell or use spell check at least. Do your English homework on sentence structure. Learn punctuation. If you think I'm dissing on you, you're missing what I'm really saying.
It all starts with self respect, if you don't realize we only know you by your writing you are obviously only thinking about yourself. Paying attention to others feelings will tell you all you need to know about self confidence.

Answer 9

becos ppl are so important for u , if think the way that u are so pretty and so cool and no body compares to u (in a normal way) and u have ur own style and u love ur style u will never be like that... try to think u are so pretty and dress up so good try to show ur self to every body and pay attention to ppl who admire u , what ever u are who ever u are still consider urself as beautiful creature ...c'mon u are able to alots of things and i think outta 100 maybe 2 or 3 of them are able to do these stuff, ur talented ,...don't think like that .

Answer 10

I think you just need to stop being too self-conscious. By what you've said, you sound like a really interesting girl that lots of people would love to be friends with. Good luck!