My bestfriend nd I hav been bestfrends for about 3 years now, and ive known her for 5. weve been doin great, but latley shes been actin funny. she dosent want me to have other friends but her, and she gets extremely mad when i hang wit her sister. we used to fite about it but we would make up in the same day now she goes weeks witout talkin to me. recently we were in the same situation and now she wont speak to me. i tell her alot that i would never replace her, especially wit her sister, and weve talked about it. usually i dont pay her any mind cuz she eventually gets over it, but this time shes really serious. like she just completely erased me from her life basically. like all becuz i talked to her sister online. she dosent want to be bestfrends. and it hurts cause its not like i was wit her sister and not her. i was wit of them both. i wanna know if i shuld wait nd see if she comes around or if i should jus erase her out my life like she did me( p.s imma girl also )
2006-09-08 09:36:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i've totally been there, done that and bought the damn t-shirt! all you can really do is wait and find out what the outcome is going to be. no, you shouldn't just erase her out of your life because of 2 different reasons:
1) it's really immature and
2) you are her friend and friends are always there for the other.
i know she doesn't seem like a friend but try and hold out. maybe she'll come around and if she doesn't then you need to sit down and have a private, one-on-one talk with her. basically you need to give her an ultimatium. tell her that either she's going to grow up and stop being so immature or you're going to just say good-bye because you don't deserve this cold shoulder just because she's a little jealous. make sure you don't accuse her or this conversation will NOT work out in the long run. try to explain your situation to her by gently saying that she's smothering you. yes, this is going to sound like a conversation you'd have with your boyfriend but hell, aren't boyfriends just as close as a best friend? remind her that you will never replace her and remind her of all the good times you did have together. even tell her the pros and cons of having her as a best friend. it's a small chance but maybe she doesn't really realize what's she's doing to you. is she the youngest of her family because to me it sounds as if she's a spoiled brat and right now she's holding her breath until you give her what she wants. just remember that when spoiled brats do hold their breath they will eventually breath again. hell, i get a tad bit jealous when my friends blake or steven or tristin or cordell hang out with their girl-friends or boy-friends and husbands and wives (*NOTE: blake and steven are single but they have a ton of friends that are girls). but that doesn't mean i just simply stop talking to them because i understand that you need more than just 1 flippin' friend in life. and they don't stop talking to me just because i hang out with a ton of guy friends. you friend has a real maturity problem that she needs to fix quick because she's going to end up very lonely in life if she keeps pushing her friends away. don't give in and stop hanging out with other people because of one person. if she's your friend then she'll be okay with you hanging out with other people.
2006-09-08 10:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's terrible to lose a best friend by their choice. No, (to answer you question) you don't need a friend like that. There is some possibility that she will come to her senses some day but don't hold your breath. She apparently wants a friend who is exclusive to her and to her alone and something inside her will accept nothing less. Don't erase her. Leave the door open but don't spend your emotional energy on it.
2006-09-08 09:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points
2006-09-08 09:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by YAHOO SUCKS ASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, sounds like a lot of my past relationships...hahaha. Well, it sounds like shes jealous, just give her some time and she'll come around. Wait a like a week or so. Tell her that you will give her some time to chill out.
2006-09-08 09:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've had friends like this in the past and they are gone from my life now, so to answer your question you may not realize it now but eventually you will be happy and better off without this person. its very hard to please a controlling person such as this so eventually you realize why even bother? if you try to stay friends with her she will probably continue fights with you and thats not fun.
2006-09-08 10:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ladylck13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS CODEPENDENT ON YOU AND WANTS YOU TO BE HER ONLY FRIEND AND SHE IS JEALOUS WHEN YOU HANG WITH OTHER FRIENDS EVEN A SISTER! AND SHE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE THE WAY SHE IS SHE DOESN'T WANT TO SHARE HER FRIEND!! I SHOULD KNOW I'M THE SAME WAY!!! NOT REALLY I KNOW CUZ MY SISTER IS LIKE THAT!! SHE HATES ALL MY FRIENDS I CANT EVEN TALK ABOUT A FRIEND CUZ SHE GETS MAD!! ITS OK FOR HER TO HAVE OTHER FRIENDS BUT SHE WANTS ME TO ONLY IDOLIZE HER
2006-09-08 09:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get rid of her because it sounds like you care about her. it sounds like she is slightly insecure and feels threatened by your other friend taking over as your best friend. just talk to her
2006-09-08 09:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is wrong with her. maybe she wants to be more than best friends?
2006-09-08 09:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowerchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A REAL FRIEND WOULDN'T TREAT YOU THIS WAY THINK ABOUT THAT.
2006-09-08 09:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋