i've had three glasses of rose wine tonight, do you think i have damaged my unborn child?

Question

just had a fight with my fiance and had three glasses (of moderate size) of rose wine. i don't normally drink and haven't had a drink in weeks. do you think i am a) out of order b) damaging my child. I'm just so upset at some of the things my fiance has said and now i am worried. I'm not drunk. what should i do?

Answer 1

Calm down. the stress of arguing and worrying is probably more of an issue. The drinks will not affect your baby. It is regular drinking that could provide a risk and should be avoided.
I hope you sort things out.

Answer 2

First take it easy deep breaths. Stop beating yourself up over an argument you are bound to be upset you are a female usually arguments to the man are like water off a ducks back
3 glasses or Rose wine will not Hal your baby.
Think of people who carry on as normal not realising they are expecting and out pops a healthy baby.
Their are babies born addicted to heroin and they pull through.
Plenty of other women smoke or have the odd glass of wine while expecting it is just not advised.
They now say avoid this food and that food which our parents were never told to avoid and the majority of our generation are fine.

Keep your body and mind healthy and your baby will be fine nobody is a saint but stop beating your self up take thinks one step at a time and it will all work out for the best.

Don't think unreasonably

Answer 3

The worry will cause more distress to the baby than the alcohol!

Relax! You are extremely unlikely to have done any damage to your child. A one-off is not drastic! Let's face it, you are not drunk, you are angry! Just don't do it regularly!

Re. the fiance. Does he realise what you and your body are going through at the moment? Does he understand that your hormones are all over the shop?

Now you need to be realistic. I know you are pregnant but you have to decide if you really want to marry your fiance. Are you better off without him? If he is like this during the pregnancy, what will he be like with the sleepless nights? How will he cope if the birth is difficult?

Are your family around? Can they give you the emotional support you need?

Just remember that if you decide you will be better off without him, he still needs to have contact with the baby. You need money (okay, so that is mercenary, but accurate!). You also need time to yourself - so let him have access so you have time to yourself! Use the time for baths, sleeping, shopping in peace, Also think of things like birthday and christmas presents for the baby!!!

So when you have both calmed down, you need to talk (preferably on neutral territory so neither of you lose your tempers!) and talk things through. You need not to think of yourselves but of the baby. Obviously it is better for the child if you stay together, but the child needs parents who can communicate without arguing all the time.

Good luck! - and stop worrying about the alcohol! You will not have done any damage! Your worrying about it and your relationship are likely to cause more damage!

Answer 4

Probably not, but I wouldn't have any more than three!!!

Drinking a few glasses of wine now and then in pregnancy won't cause any damage - its people who drink regularly and excessively who are at severe risk of their baby having Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.

I haven't been able to drink at all in my pregnancy as just the smell of alcohol or a little sip makes me feel really sick. But I have had to take various medications (under Doctor's advice of course) and that worries me that it will affect the baby.

Then again someone I know had to take morphine throughout their pregnancy (under Doctor's advice) and their baby was fine!!!

I'm sure baby will be OK just don't make a habit of it!

Answer 5

Your baby will be fine. You're better off having a few drinks and calming down than staying stressed.

Remember, it's only relatively recently we're all told to be so health-conscious while pregnant. For generations women drank and even smoked throughout pregnancy, your few glasses of rose are not the end of the world.

You're not out of order. You're going to be a great Mum.

Answer 6

Government guidelines in UK say 2-3 units per week. Which is 2-3 small glasses and that's every single week of pregnancy. Stressing about this is raising your blood pressure and that is far more likely to harm the baby.

Sort it out with fiance and forget about it.

Good luck

PS you'll be a great mum - you're a natural worrier!!

Answer 7

As far as hurting your unborn baby....this time no I dont think you did any harm to your baby, but I wouldn't encourage you to drink while you are pregnant. Its not good for you or the baby.

I will enclose some facts in this answer for you about drinking and what it can lead to in your pregnancy.......Im not meaning to upset you in anyway or come against you either.......but if i didnt tell you the truth what kind of person would I be?

When You Are Pregnant,
Drinking Can Hurt Your Baby
When you are pregnant, your baby grows inside you. Everything you eat and drink while you are pregnant affects your baby. If you drink alcohol, it can hurt your baby's growth. Your baby may have physical and behavioral problems that can last for the rest of his or her life. Children born with the most serious problems caused by alcohol have fetal alcohol syndrome.

Children with Fetal
Alcohol Syndrome May:
• Be born small.

• Have problems eating and sleeping.

• Have problems seeing and hearing.

• Have trouble following directions and learning how to do simple things.

• Have trouble paying attention and learning in school.

• Have trouble getting along with others and controlling their behavior.

• Need medical care all their lives.

• Need special teachers and schools.



1. Can I drink alcohol if I am pregnant?

No. Do not drink alcohol when you are pregnant. Why? Because when you drink alcohol, so does your baby. Think about it. Everything you drink, your baby also drinks.

is any kind of alcohol safe to drink during pregnancy?
No. Drinking any kind of alcohol when you are pregnant can hurt your baby. Alcoholic drinks are beer, wine, wine coolers, liquor, or mixed drinks. A glass of wine, a can of beer, and a mixed drink all have about the same amount of alcohol. Alcohol can hurt a baby even when you are only 1 or 2 months pregnant.

You need to sit down with your fiance and find out what is going on with him and why he said such things to upset you.....right now he also needs to know that undue stress on you and the baby isnt good for you either.

Im sure you havent damaged your baby but next time if you get upset you can write in a journal and get those feelings out or maybe call someone and talk to them, or pray.....I find prayer works wonders to calm the soul....... everyone knows you love your baby, so do whats best for you and baby and please stay away from alcohol.

God bless you always.

Answer 8

Don't mind anyone who says you're irresponsible. You only had 3 glasses and from your question it seems like you haven't been drinking at any other stage. As long as your not getting p*ssed every weekend it's ok. Just maybe try have the one glass in future, but don't make a habit of it. I'd be more worried about the stress though.

Answer 9

As long as its a rare thing it won't do any damage. Babies are much tougher than the nanny state would have us believe. If you went out and got drunk every night you would do damage, but logic dictates that although its not advised, 2 drinks a week won't do any damage, the body simply rejects it and pumps it straight out of your system. If its helping you to relax have one or 2 more as the stress will cause more damage than the drink.

Answer 10

how far along are u? One time won't really hurt the baby. But try not to do it again. Hit the pillow or smth. Understandable you're pissed, but you should think about your baby now the most. By drinking you won't prove the point. I'd totally understand you the other time but not when you're carrying the baby. Don't worry. Make up with your fiance (if he'll be good).