Advice on how to deal with a friend please?

Question

Im really good friends with this guy but he is really stubborn and its annoying, also he gets annoyed very easily. For example if he played a joke on me we'd laugh at it but if i did the same thing to him he would most likely have a huge hissy fit. I've tried talk to him about this but he gets extremely defensive and dosent take in anything i say, he just stops talking to me! He is a good friend and most of the time we get on fine i just want him to relax a bit

Answer 1

Yeah I have MANY friends like that,just don't do whatever he does to you(I mean the stuff that annoys him a lot).If you by accident did,just relax,these things like not talking with you will all be gone and you be friends in less that two weeks so don't think it is a huge problem.Good luck!

Answer 2

What you are describing is two different personalities. You can't expect someone to behave in the same manner as you do because they are not you. Sometimes we have to adjust our behavior to them. We have control over our own responses, but not theirs. Empathy is very important when maintaining valuable friendships. Some times if you try to see things from their point of view, it helps to understand why they act as they do. It is possible that someone else in his life has treated him in a way that causes him to react differently to things. What may be funny and lighthearted to you may be a very sensitive spot for him. Look at all the things that you like and appreciate about him and overlook some things that really don't affect your friendship. Some times the best of friends are complete opposites, but that just tends to complement and balance the friendship. Since you said that he gets extremely defensive, I would back off because there is very likely something that causes him grief and as a friend, I'm sure you don't want to distress him. Be understanding and don't try to change him, but rather see how you can change your response to him. If your friendship is good, and it sounds like it is, then it is worth discovering how you can change your way of responding to him. Learn to really see his good qualities and don't concentrate on the dis-similarities. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

When the two of you are out or no matter where, you should say, you know when you play a joke with me, you find it funny, but when the joke is on you, you do not like it, I value your friendship, and I just want you to relax, and have fun, this is something you should try and work on, stop sweating the small stuff.

Answer 4

You said you talked to him, but maybe you didn't say what really needed to be said, or maybe you weren't serious enough. I think you should try talking to him again, telling him that you enjoy his friendship, but you think he is too uptight. Be nice and tactful, but make it clear that you don't enjoy being around him when he gets upset so easily. Tell him how you feel, but don't make it sound like it's his fault, either. I know what it's like when a friend doesn't want to listen to you and you may have to consider that he might have deeper things going on that make him the way he is.

I hope it works out!

Answer 5

Its hard to deal with a know-it-all friend. Sometimes we just have to deal with them or leave them alone. If this guys frienship is worth having then be patient and put up with him but if you just can't deal with him anymore then tell him that your days are over being the butt of his jokes. He can dish it out but can't take it which means he probably has anger problems which needs to be resolved thru anger managment. We don't have to be friends with this guy you do if you choose to be. In the end its all about whether he is worth having for a friend. You know his situation and it seems like you care about his well-being. Give it sometime and if nothing changes let him know that you need to cut the negativity out of your life and that includes him. Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 6

I HAVE A PAIR OF FRIENDS JUST LIKE THAT THEY BOTH TALK TOO ME BUT I DON'T TELL THEM ABOUT EACH OTHERS PROBLEMS SO MY ADVISE TOO YOU IS THAT IF YOU REALLY CARE FOR HIM KEEP TELLING HIM HOW YOU FEEL WHEN HE PLAYS A JOKE ON YOU THAT YOU DON'T LIKE OR JUST TELL HIM TOO STOP BEING AN *** HOLE AND BE A MAN ABOUT IT AND IF THAT DOESN'T WORK TELL HIM TOO STOP WITH THE JOKE IF HE CAN'T TAKE ONE .I HOPE THIS CAN HELP.

Answer 7

ok well i gotta a friend like that. wat i do is, i no this sounds mean but it works, like if she punches me i punch her back, and say see, how do u like it? yeah, she gets pretty mad but she gets over it after awhile, she got the point, she isn't as mean as she waz but, ya no , u can't change some one completely. u just gotta come out and say wat u want, then they'll get it. hope i helped

-jamie
if u need more advice, i'll arange 2 talk.

Answer 8

tell him you feel