what to do if married and you run into first love?

Question

we r both happily married we both have kids a wonderful life. But whenever we r together you can just feel that magic! And don't let us get alone together cause it's like we can't control ourselves. Are we just trying to live out our teenage years again or what?

Answer 1

If you don't have this magic feeling with your wife, then do something about it: I mean fix your relationship with your wife. Just because you ran into an old love of yours and you felt excitement doesn't mean it is meant to be. It means you're bored with your marriage. You should not feel obliged then to act on your feelings and cheat on your wife, leave your wife, or run out on your family. Take care of your family first; and, that means your wife. She deserves the best from you just as you'd expect it from her.

Answer 2

I have often dreamed of such a meeting with my first love. How would I react. My life as a married women of 24 years was not the happiest, apart from my children. Lust and Love lost it's way many years earlier. What did I think about my marriage (1) I choose him out of all the guys out there and 1969 would have been a good year for me too. (2) my children are the most important thing in my life. I choose to stay long after the dance had ended. When I finally did leave the kids were 10 - 16 a hard time for a family to break up. But for my own sanity I had to leave at this point it was for the children as much as for my self. I have spent the past nine years regaining my balance. I have stayed friendly with their father and all and all I can say that my decision to leave was the right one. But there was no custody issues etc. That was how I made it right for the kids. It is them that was affected most.

I wish you luck and happiness,

grandma use to say "follow your heart,
but you must consider all of your heart."

Barbara g

Answer 3

Maybe. Everyone's first love is something special. You both seem to have wonderful lives now and to me if your first love was really good back then, you two would of made a life together. I wouldn't mess things up on something that happened years ago. Your past is something you can not change and the future is something you can not predict, so you should live for today and be happy for the life you have. Memories are great but that's just what they are, memories.

Answer 4

Forbidden fruit may look tempting..but once you taste it, it may not be all that and when you want your life back--- it may not be waiting around for you. Forget this magic stuff with your ex…let it go and create some magic with your wife. You married her for a thousand reasons..remember them. Think about your kids. You said “better or for worse, till death do us part”…have some honor and take the high road. Yeah..life is tough, being married is tough..maybe having kids and raising them is tough as well. But is there anything in life that comes easy worth anything, though? Yeah..temptation is everywhere and it is easy to give into it.. but keep your marriage sacred and keep it just between you and your wife. Now, that is special and magical. And HOT!

Answer 5

You both needs to stay happily away from each other if you both don't want to messed up your happily marriage and wonderful life,you guys are no longer teenagers and need to moved on with yr life if not you going to enjoy or pay the consequences of your foolishness

Answer 6

Avoid any and all contact with each other, period. Really. No farewells, no good-byes, just stop. If you don't, I can guarantee you that it will result in tragedy, for your spouse, your kids, and yourself. If you know where she will be at any given time, don't go there. I'm telling you, this is serious and will destroy everything you have. You will desire your spouse less and less, and desire the other person more and more.

If it sounds like I'm overreacting, I'm not. Trust me. Make it a point never to be anywhere near this person again. If you don't take this advice, a few months from now you'll wish you did.

Answer 7

Your ex-love represents a simpler time and you are longing for that feeling again. I know because I've been there and kept running into my ex-love. The same old sparks flew.

Face it....raising a family is tough and while it may be 'wonderful' and all, it can be stifling at times. Stay away. As tempting as it is, your duty is to your family now. You both made your choice. It's fun to think of the what if, could of, should'ves isn't it? Now it is time to face reality and snap out of it.

Answer 8

I had that happen. We ran into each other and i could feel butterflys and he wanted me. He kept trying to kiss me and telling me he had to have me. But he was ingaged with kids and i am married. I just kept thinking about why we are not together anymore in the first place. Then as hard as it was i deleted his number from my cell after he put it in there and tossed the paper i wrote it on awhile back when i was trying to find him so that we could all be friends. Dont put your self in a situation that is going to get you in trouble. It didnt work out for a reason. And you dont want to ruin what you have.

Answer 9

Well, at some point you must have broken up, so it wasn't perfect, was it? Even if you were parted by circumstances beyond your control, you both moved on. Playing the "what if" game and falling for the "grass is always greener" trap is going to backfire. Do you want to risk both your current happiness for a trip down memory lane?

Answer 10

Yes, definitely living out the teenage years... Grow up dude. The "magic" is only there because neither of you has to deal with the other on the daily basis.