My husband and I went through a rough patch lately, and things have been back to normal for about a month.(good) However it is odd because he has started to buy me gifts(unusual) but at the same time is very snappy and acts irritated towards me. What could be wrong? It is as if he says and does the right things, but inwardly can't stand me. I drive him to and from work so I know hes not cheating, and he doesn't have the time.
2006-09-08 08:57:52 · 15 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MAYBE HE DOESNT THINK YOU ARE PUTTING OUT THE SAME EFFORT THAT HE IS OR MAYBE YOUR ATTITUDE ISNT WHAT HE HOPED IT WOULD BE.
2006-09-08 09:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be buying you these things because he feels bad that he's snappy and feels bad about the rough patch. I would try to give him as much space as he needs and just tell him one time that if something is bothering him he can talk to you about it anytime. It could be work related or something else. Regardless it probably has nothing to do with you and you jumping to conclusions might hamper the situation instead of helping.
2006-09-08 16:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're still in a rough patch. Your husband may have unresolved issues with your last argument. You two need to find a quiet place and the right time to talk. It sounds like your both willing to work it out, but total honesty is needed from both of you. He may be buying gifts to hide his anger, or resentment, or perhaps guilt. I hope you both work it out. Good Luck!
2006-09-08 16:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know in your heart whats wrong. Don't talk yourself into thinking 'I know hes not cheating, and he doesn't have the time'
men always find a way. You know this deep inside your very being. You need to ask him straight up what is going on. I know you don't want to hear it, but you need to know so you can go forward with your life.
His behavior is classic, as far as having an affair.
2006-09-08 16:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by proud mom ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just does not know what other way to express his feeling's except through gift's but sound's like marriage counsler may be in order to work through your problem's. It is alway's better to have an outside person who can be objective and see both side's of the problem.
2006-09-08 16:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan Wilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katy, maybe your being too close for him and smoothering him. Give him a little room and let him be free to have moods like you do. Try not to have to constantly know what he's thinking, cause sometimes a man isn't really thinking about much and definately doesn't want to explain it to you. Enjoy the gifts while they last.
2006-09-08 17:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect he feels guilty for something he did during your rough patch, and this is how the guilt is expressing itself.
2006-09-08 16:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and ask what's going on and you want the truth. Tell him his behavior towards you is unacceptable and it needs to stop right now.
2006-09-08 16:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it could be the job orhashe been to the doctor lately and got some bad results and you just dont know or he could be just tired and needs a break maybe get away and relax
2006-09-08 16:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though there is some unresolved anger brewing. Saying things are better, forgiven or whatever doesn't always mean it is so. It is easy to say it, harder to live it
2006-09-08 16:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you but, there is still something really wrong. A nice weekend for two is the answere, no other distractions.
2006-09-08 16:22:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋