I think you are exactly on track. We all develop defense mechanisms when we are young that are not appropriate when we are older. Continually changing you copping skills is a daunting task one that most people don't do regularly. But then that is what makes us human instead of god and it makes society a very interesting place.
2006-09-08 09:02:50
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answered by James L 2
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That's a really good question that you asked.
The answer would be yes. In fact, that's how you get a lot of failed relationships because people try to make their significant others be a perfect fit.
However, since we all have our quirks, mannerisms, and personal issues that shaped who we are, there are things about us that some people wouldn't like.
For example, take this question that you asked. You have a whole bunch of people who have answered your question. Let's say you find a particular answer you like given by a person. If you search hard enough to look for some kind of flaw or something about the person to disqualify that that person as giving good or logical advice, you can create the same effect.
That effect is where you're not paying attention to the value of the answer provided and basing your decision on some character flaw about that individual thinking that makes the individual unqualified to be an expert.
Sometimes the flaws we find in others have nothing to do with the task at hand. People can develop prejudices that have no bearing or relevance to what is being asked or the task at hand.
The other thing that's bad about diagnosing people with Personality Disorders is that much of it is subjective.
They once had an experiment where they took test subjects that were clinically sane and secretly inserted them into various Mental Institutions to test to see whether the Psychiatrists at those Mental Hospitals could tell the difference between a sane and insane mental patient.
The experiment turned out horribly because the people who were sane and attempted to prove that they were sane were branded by the Mental Institution people as being ill and "thinking they were sane."
That's a really frightening or disturbing thought. It means that if you and I were clinically sane and thought we could pass through a Mental Institution with flying colors and a Clean Bill of Health, we probably wouldn't. We'd be dubbed as mentally ill.
Imagine if you're sitting there and sure you're mentally stable, but you're locked up in Mental Ward with a Psychiatrist who doesn't believe you and when you claim there's nothing wrong with you he says you're in denial.
Then when you get angry or show any sort of aggression, the Psychiatrist whips out his pen and paper and starts writing in his notes that you have "violent tendencies."
People should be very careful. A lot of people discriminate against people who come off as being mentally ill or unstable, but if they were ever subjected to conditions where their sanity was questioned, most people would fail and get a rude awakening to discover that there's a very thin line that separates sanity and insanity and people who claim to be qualified in determining who is and isn't sane sometimes can't.
The same thing goes for interrogating people whom they believe to be guilty of a crime who were actually innocent. If you lock someone up for 24 hours in an interrogation room grilling them, you can get an innocent individual to cave in and break down, start tripping over their words, and make them look like they're guilty.
A lot of people think they're sane, but it's really easy to nudge people off balance mentally if you push the right butons. Most people don't realize this.
2006-09-08 12:04:19
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answered by "IRonIC" by Alanis 3
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truthfully, whoever says charm isn't significant in a relationship is stupid. that's not "shallow" to no longer prefer to this element somebody because you do no longer discover them ideal. i think of that character, overall, is greater significant in an prolonged-term, useful relationship, fantastically marriage. merely think of approximately it, sometime all and sundry is going to be previous and unsightly, and all you will could desire to base your love on is your personalities. as an occasion, if there became a great warm jerk, or a kinda cute candy boy, i might choose for the candy boy. it style of sounds like this guy is great! If he has a great character and is sweet attempting to you, then i say choose for it! Its ok if hes no longer skinny or fat, thats a good element! great skinny men are style of peculiar looking...
2016-09-30 11:45:01
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answered by ? 4
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All I have and speak to are the friends in my head and my machine...I love you people. Seriously we all have neurocis to some degree or another...being metally unwell is when you mental impairment effects you life, job, family in the negative.
I feel you aren't metally well unless you have gone to a shrink or psychologis to work through "One Baggage".
I stroll off sing "I always feel like somebody watching me...and I have no privacy"
2006-09-08 09:06:11
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answered by Lovely B 3
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I think its an issue of definition... Everybody has flaws and issues, but when these things interrupt a person's reasonable pursuit of a satisfying existance, they become disorders.
2006-09-08 09:18:11
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answered by Rod 2
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i think everyone has some sort of disorder or issue i think that in some people it just a little more obvious.
2006-09-08 09:16:14
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answered by cenasqueen 2
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yes we are human. and that's what makes the world interesting.
we should look at people positives and help them with their weaknesses.
2006-09-08 09:05:18
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answered by Anonymous
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You are right, we all have our phobias, our quirks our mannerisms and unique traits. Some annoying others not.
2006-09-08 09:02:02
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answered by Anonymous
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