Me and my husband have been to geather for 8 years and now we just had a baby and we where going threw a really rough time but we are trying to work things out how do we relite the spark and fix the void between us
2006-09-08 08:53:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first child is a shock to the system for both of you. You both spend your time running from changing diapers to cleaning up spit up. It is important that once in a while you have a babysitter or your parents take your child and allow the both of you to get a break from the madness that is parenthood. Go to a nice dinner followed by the movies or other outing that you enjoyed together before the baby arrived. This will allow the both of you to concentrate on each other for a while. The spark will return.
2006-09-08 09:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by ziggy_1313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyones spark is different. What attracted you to him in the first place? What did he fall in love with about you? With a baby it is hard to still have time for eachother, but never loose sight of the fact that after the baby is grown and gone, hopefully you two will still be togeather and enjoying all those little things!
The babysitter is an excelent idea as it allows you to spend time on eachother and keep the fires going. You will still have to focus on the baby most of the time, but never loose focus on each other!
2006-09-08 09:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange for a sitter for a date night every week, or a couple of times each month. Take the lead on arranging the first few, then get him to be involved in the next few and then talk about switching off between the two of you. During your date time, try NOT to talk/worry about your baby and concentrate on each other.
2006-09-08 10:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey we have some thing in common, today is my 8th anniversary.
You need to find a babysitter and have a date night. If you really want to light a spark, tell him your interested in having another person join you in bed (man or woman) whatever the fantasy may be. By some toys and play with them while he watches, make him wait his turn. There is so many things you can do with a little imagination. Have fun and be sexy ;-)
2006-09-08 09:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the long time happily married couple have had similar stories to tell. Don't worry you are not the only one!
This is a phase where utmost patience is required. Life is all about giving than taking. Make a nice dinner and wear sexy teddy and feed him dinner. do a strip dance, leave sexy notes in his clothes or wear nothing but one of his shirts.
2006-09-08 09:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is some ideas for you have someone to watch your baby for a night. then cook him a nice dinner with candles on the table wear a sexy nite gown or nothing all when he comes on from work and feed him his dinner maybe he will go for the dessert first. try role play, make love outside, in a car, in a swimming pool or a truck. put whip cream on him and lick it off. there is so many things you can do to make your marriage exciting. good luck.
2006-09-09 14:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children can be a cause of reduced passion in marriage. Often the husband feels his wife's affection shifting from him to the children. He now has to share center stage with a screaming baby who before-you-know-it becomes a demanding teenager. Kids can wear you out (I know. I have four of them) and nothing kills passion like exhaustion.
2006-09-08 19:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the baby spit up clothes off your body and get yourself dolled up. Put baby to bed and no matter how tired you are, jump your husband. That is what he is longing for.
Trust me....after raising two boys 18 mos apart...works like a charm every time.
After 15 years, it is amazing how many nice things that my hubby does for me when I make the extra effort to show him how much I want him.
2006-09-08 10:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a small baby to take care it's not always to easy and put a lot a stress on a relationship,what about going on date with him,choose a day of the week and make that day your day to do things together and if it's bad go see a counselor before it's to late
2006-09-08 08:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the baby is and always will and should be THE prioirity
your husband will have to be patient and realizde that
is the way it is. A baby is reponsibility and you too
should come together to work as a team to give
the baby the best care and love you two can-
its not about him or you- NOW-its about the baby !!!!!!
2006-09-08 09:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by don;t know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋