2006-09-08 08:53:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Perhaps you need to work on your self-esteem. Do things that make you happy to be you... Discover, then follow your dreams. Write a list of things that make you happy, and things you always wanted to do, and start working towards doing them one by one.
Right now, you may feel that the scraps of love that this man was tossing to you when he wasn't treating you cruelly were better than the loneliness that you may feel right now. However, when you start to work on improving your life, you will realize that the cost of that relationship was too high, and totally not worth it - you had him at the expense of losing yourself.
You need to be whole again, don't try to fill the emptiness you feel with people that aren't worth your time. You are worth so much more than that. Just continue to work on you and soon you will see that you never really loved him, just as he never really loved you. Love isn't supposed to hurt.
Please take care, and have faith that everything will be better one day.
2006-09-08 09:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by HoneyB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you have a low self esteem and you are dependent on the acceptance of others. Perhaps he made you feel unworthy, and you do not feel you have any self worth. There is much we do not know beyond the question, but being beaten is no show of love, and should not be tolerated by you. You need to look in the mirror and begin to like the person you are, regardless if anyone else affirms the same. Then you need to radiate a feeling of worth from the inside out. You need to believe in yourself so that others can also.
2006-09-08 15:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by David S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not be true love, but something else. Dependency, loneliness, low self esteem on your part, or even Father issues which follow you into your adult years. Really you can do better. I went through a relationship just like it years ago. I found I did not love him, but I was afraid to leave. I was worried I could not do it alone. I can, and you can. Good luck. You can message if you would like to chat.
2006-09-08 15:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by poisonivy4913 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's b/c you feel that he'll change, and you know it's some good in him somewhere. And that he'll be the good man you fell in love w/ once more. I don't know why you feel that way, but you said USED to beat you, so if you are still w/ him please be careful.... No one has the right to abuse another person.
2006-09-08 16:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by BOMBSHELL21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he had a psychological grip/hold on you. You fell in love with him (I'm sure) before he began to abuse you. And when he started to abuse you, I'm sure you thought he would change...
Don't beat yourself up over it though, no matter what the person does to us, we can't help it if we love them. I just hope you are away from him now and have removed yourself from the situation. As long as you are safe it is okay, the love will eventually fade and you will be able to move on.
2006-09-08 15:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can continue to love him but you cant like him if he beats you up to love a man but not really like him is a relationship that will not work.
2006-09-08 15:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by laferla66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man hits you onetime he will do again, You better get while the gettings good. If you love a man that has beaten you, you need help real face like.
2006-09-08 16:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes life is very strange but when girls are in love with this person we think that there not going to do that and when it happens we are in shock and it wont happen for a while and then it happens again and again but you should start to change your mind and your heart before this man hurts you bad you will get over him in time trust me you will find someone who can treat you like a lady
2006-09-08 15:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you did not have a good, gentlemanly father to show you how a man is supposed to treat a woman in a healthy relationship. You want to please a man in any way possible to make him stay around. I'm sincerely sorry for you.
2006-09-08 15:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity.
2006-09-08 15:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by FacingEviction 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋