Hi,
I am currious...is anyone you know happily married who was initially back and forth when it came to marriage? My fiance comes from a broken home and she goes through phazes of total commitment and seeming like she really can't wait to marry me and then doubt and worry. She begged me to propose for a long time and then when I did, she started acting weird and stand offish. Then she admitted that she was very affraid because even people that seem to be "perfect" together for a long time can have horrible things happen later on that end in divorce. Recently, her brother's seemingly happy marriage ended when his wife said she had been cheating for a while. She completely changed into a monster that was never even thought imaginable. I understand my fiance's worry, considering her family situation, but can someone overcome this in any way? Does anyone have a simmilar story? Thanks.
2006-09-08 08:46:19 · 6 answers · asked by John W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her you two just need to promise to always try and work things out. And when you do have problems just remember things will get better becasue they always do. And if it takes a long time, then remember Good things take time.
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2006-09-08 08:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by ggggggabe! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can overcome it only when she puts it in its proper place.
She shouldn't be judging her pending marriage by the standards of others.
Some people divorce some don't. Some people marry for money some don't. Some marry for love ,some don't so its a each individual decision how their marriage turns out.
She can also overcome it by taking a risk and seeing whether hers will follow in the same footsteps.
It's okay to be cautious because it at least shows marriage is a big decision and she has concerns about staying married and hopefully her fears will turn into positivity where you and her if the marriage goes through would do everything possible to make sure her worse fears doesn't become a reality.Good luck.
2006-09-08 09:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE POWER OF PRAYER IS A AMAZING THING LET GO AND LET GOD ILL PRAY FOR YOU TOO GOD BLESS YOU AND REMEMBER THIS IF YOU KEEP DOING THE SAME THING AND EXPECT DIFFERENT RESULTS ITS PRETTY MUCH A LOST CAUSE SO MAYBE IF ITS GODS WILL FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP TRY IT A NEW WAY OK GOD BLESS YOU AND ILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU
2006-09-08 08:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by bernie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is really afraid of failing too she needs to get help maybe cancelling she can come arround stand by her life has done this to her
2006-09-08 08:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by fancey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how long you have been back and forth.
2006-09-08 08:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
words from the heart, thanks i needed that to put things in prospective.
2006-09-08 09:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋