I just found out that my bestfriend is having serious problems with her boyfriend. But I am not suppose to know about it, thanks to my curiosity I found out. I don'tknow what to do? Should I tell her I know the truth and give her advice or should I ignore it and wait until she tells me? I am a little ashamed of searching and don't know if she should know.
2006-09-08 08:45:16 · 36 answers · asked by Mandy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is not your place until she says it is. If she wants your advice or to confide in you on such a personal matter she will approach you. And whom ever is spreading these things you are hearing; take note and beware of this person.
2006-09-08 08:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Juble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U do not say anything!!!! Your best thing to do is be a listener and read between the lines in your convo's with her. She may beat around the bush for answers. Don't give her any advice on what to do. that maybe the reason she hasn't spoke on it yet. When a person has issues, most of the time they are not looking for answers, they need a friend to listen and understand them. Then they will rationalize their own dilemma and figure out what to do about it. And if it is something as far as him cheatin on her, she's not going to tell cause she doesn't want to be judge. That can even cause her to cling and be hurt by him even more. WAIT on her green light before you approach
2006-09-08 08:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by menyauna s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd wait. Your friend will tell when she feels the time is right. Also it might ruin your friendship, if you tell her that you went snooping. Once she tells you, you can give her all the advice you want.
You could also ask her a question that has to do with her problems, but don't outright say that it's her your talking about. Maybe then she'll open up to you. Don't make it too obvious that you're talking about her.
2006-09-08 08:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by baddest_ladybug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serious as opposed to what? minor problems?
Tell her you found out, dont say what right away, but that you hesitated in fear of hurting her by 'being the one with the bad news'. Then, dont tell her but tell her to speak to the horses mouth or show her your second hand information and let her decide what to do. Ask her since youre bringing her bad news...how can you help her to get through it.
2006-09-08 08:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, well let me tell you what happened when something like this happened to me. I waited till she told me and i laughed at her and told her I already knew and she got mad and left... So not a good idea to laugh at her but you might want to sit her down and talk to her just ask if there's anything she would like to talk about that's bothering her but don't push her and don't upset her on purpose. I know not a lot of help but i try.
2006-09-08 08:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by LiL P Berry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is let her boyfriend know that you would like to have a secret affair with him. This will help your girlfriend SO much because her boyfriend (the guy you'll be sleeping with) will take his mind off of their problems, and things between them will get so much better. You really need to be helpful like this, and do something good.
2006-09-08 08:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by rod_j_clifton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hint around that you know about it, if you just pull it all out at once she might be caught off guard and react in a big way. Tell her that you will be their for her and ask if their is anything you can do for her.
2006-09-08 08:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by TheMightyOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you wait for her to tell you things, it's not cool to find out that your friends are behind your every move and that they come to you to give you advice when you haven't even spoken with them. Also, next time wait for her to tell you, it's the proper thing to do. Best of Luck! ~V.J.~
2006-09-08 08:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she knows that you know, and if she does know that you know you can tell her you know. Or stop talking to the boyfriend behind your friends back, that might help with some of the problems.
2006-09-08 08:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good will come of it?
If it only serves to get this guilty secret off your chest, you should keep quiet.
If you think you will save her certain pain by causing her this pain now, you have to consider it, but be ready to lose a friend.
2006-09-08 08:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by DidacticRogue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋