My partner of 5 yrs is really getting pushy now abour anal sex.We tried it last year and I bled and it hurt ,so havent since then.It was my first time.He says its his to but I dont really believe that.He goes on the net alot and has been around .Anyway now everytime we have straight sex it comes up .He had been gone out a town 3 days a week and now is really pressuring me ! Im not to hip to it! How do I handle this?And no guys dont say bend over and take it?
2006-09-08 08:36:41 · 11 answers · asked by jessy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes we are married 5 yrs
2006-09-08 08:45:02 · update #1
First off, a guy who loves you should respect your choice not to have anal sex. He should feel lucky that you tried it at least and then respect that you decided it simply wasn't for you. Personally any guy that pressures a woman into anything once she tells him she isn't into something doesn't deserve to be with that woman. I have a hard time believing he really loves you and intends to have any kind of a long term relationship with you. If he can't respect your choice then he isn't the man for you. You deserve someone who cares about your feelings and what you want and need. Not someone who forces their needs onto you.
2006-09-08 08:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the unfortunate thing is he wants to do it and will one way or another. You know what they say, if a man doesn't get it from his women he will get it from another. I'm not saying do what you dont want but be ready for this consequence. I myself enjoy anal a lot. It hurt at first but once you get more relaxed and used to it it will be totally different. If you do want to give it another try make sure to use lots and lots of lubrication and a bottle of wine wouldn't hurt either. The more relaxed YOU are the less it will hurt and the more it will feel good.
2006-09-08 15:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to respect your body. It is YOUR body, not his. If you aren't comfortable with it then you don't need to do it. Especially if it hurts you. This guy doesn't seem to respect you too much, if he wont respect you on this. Tell him that it is not an option, so he should just stop bringing it up. Also tell him that the porn he's getting his ideas from is not reality, and he should stop expecting your love life to be like the videos he watches.
2006-09-08 15:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by ask the eightball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he like too much of vice and you should not especially since he goes and you don't know where. A couple is suppossed to have a certain standard agreement about sex unless things spontaneously happens.
Leave his @$$ he's no good
2006-09-08 15:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by she 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a blowj0b.......Tell him anal sex may cause AIDS and explain him the pain you suffer ...You said partner..A husband or a live with companion?
Try to satisfy him with different positions, knowing which he likes most, ofcourse, except anal.
2006-09-08 15:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by Electric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to talk to him and tell him your not in to that. He needs to respect your feelings and drop the subject. Ask him why he feels anal sex is so important? Maybe there are other ways to acheive whatever it is he gets from this.
2006-09-08 15:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by grace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't respect your wishes and leave "well enough" alone he must not really care about your feelings. I would have a serious discussion about it, tell him your not into it and this will be the last time you expect to discuss this. If he can't get past this, maybe you should move on.
2006-09-08 15:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by KIMBO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him to me, and I'll show him how it feels up his butt...
Seriously, think of Heath Ledger in "Brokeback Mountain..."
G'bye!
2006-09-11 12:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by TurboLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about being an adult and not doing it? After all, it is your anus. Shouldn't you be in control of what goes in, if anything?
2006-09-08 15:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out No it hurts. And then tell him if he loves you he should want to please you not himself.
2006-09-08 15:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by ggggggabe! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋