Even though he is quite well-off I have got to treat him always. He is the meanest guy anyone may have seen! He is so miser that he only wears my old shirts, pants and shoes. Though I have cut of our friendship many times I make up with him. When he is with me I feel confident. He also cheers me up. Though he has never cheated me, he won't spend a penny on me. He knows all my secrets and all my pains and sufferings and when I talk it over with him my pain subsides. I am married and he is a bachalor. Unfortunately I have a nagging wife and when I tell him what all I have to go through with her he gives me confidence that everything will get better one day. Is he some sort of an EMOTIONAL ANCHOR to me?
2006-09-08 08:30:39 · 3 answers · asked by Justanian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Is he only selfish with his money?
First of all, he can't use you without your permission. Stop treating him. Next time you can say "hey wanna buy me dinner?" or something to that effect.
As for the emotional anchor. In my opinion, if the only thing he is that's selfish is just financially, is that so bad? I mean, he repays his friendship in other ways.
My best friend is almost the same way, or was. She has more money than she knows what to do with, but is very VERY frugal. Doesn't usually spend a dime on me. I on the other hand don't mind spending money on her although I'm a single mother now without child support.
She is a WONDERFUL friend. She provides me with much support, she's there for me when I need to cry and there for me when I need to laugh. She provides me the energy I need to get myself through the day. We've been best friends now for 18 years. I couldn't ask for anyone better.
Just because he pinches his pennies, doesn't mean he's not a friend.
When did we start monitoring friendship by the dollar?
2006-09-08 08:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking a question in public which you already answered it yourself. you might have homosexuals tendency and you need to see a spiritual leader instead of asking these silly questions.
2006-09-10 11:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Morgan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't tell this nut case is using you and your emotional baggage to keep your relationship going i say dump him and see a psychiatrist.ASAP
2006-09-08 15:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by lovelady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋